How to approach a woman is a hard thing to do for most men. It seems so hard to think for an opening line, a particular topic that would interest her, or just how to grab her attention. Thinking about how she would react negatively or receive no response at all is unimaginable that is why most men are discouraged not to try. Being that a common problem for men, it has also been a common subject for dating tips everywhere. You can get opening lines from David DeAngelo or dress like Mystery to attract everybody's attention.
But the question is, are you ready for the next step? So what if you really did get her attention? What are you going to do after she fell into your opening lines? What if she counteracted at your opening lines?
After you have prepared on how to approach a woman, know how to do the next step from these two different situations:
Situation 1: You're not into pickup and you haven't learned some advanced techniques from David DeAngelo or Neil Strauss yet. So you used a simple opener that luckily worked on a woman.
Don't let that good chance of yours to just slip off because you got her bored or you stopped talking. A good conversation can get you a good date. So avoid a boring one and long pauses or what they call, dead air.
Ask open ended questions. This will let her talk a bit. Listen to what she says so that you will have an idea on what to say next. You will also be able to pickup some information on her: her interests or what pisses her off.
Do not make your conversation like an interview where you're the interviewer and she's the interviewee. Talk as well. Make her feel comfortable talking with you. Remember also to flirt with her or she might think you're just too nice of a guy. If possible, ask her to do something like walk with you, have a coffee at a nearby coffee shop, and the likes.
Situation 2: You are trying to use a dating technique that's supposed to be "challenging" a woman and you should be the one in-charge of the situation. But what happens is she challenges you back. She's using the same technique on you.
Don't be surprised nor act like your stunt is over and she won because it has just started. It is actually a good indication if she challenges you back. She's responding to your technique and "agreed" to play your game. So don't get nervous and never lose your composure or you will lose your chances on her. Instead, look into her eyes - do not flinch - and play the game! It is indeed challenging but it is where the real fun is.
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