How to Find a Date

There are a lot of ways on how to find a date. The most effective is in a social gathering where there are many women. You may have seen Neil Strauss and other pickup artists doing their stunts at nightclubs. But for those who are not too skilled in dating, it could really be hard to approach women in such occasions. Well, as I've said, there are a lot of ways...

Perhaps you have heard of speed dating. It is called speed dating because you get to date 20-30 dates in just an hour. Wow, honestly I cannot imagine dating 20 women in just an hour. But in speed dating, it is possible. Sounds interesting huh?

Speed dating is not your ordinary idea of dating. It is not the kind of dating that David DeAngelo would recommend, I suppose. It is actually a service offered by some companies. Basically, a number of women are grouped together and each of them has cards that represent the men. On the other hand, men are assigned a place and they also have the numbers that represent the women.

Any man can start with any woman. For example, man number twelve can start with woman number 1 or 2. Then each couple is given five to ten minutes to talk. It depends on the company’s procedure but it usually ranges from four minutes to ten minutes. During that time, each couple can talk just about anything - interests, sports, sex, movies, etc. When the time is up, each man and woman will mark their partner's number with a 'yes' or a 'no'. Yes means that you are interested with him/her and if you both marked a yes to each other, you will get his/her contact details in a few days.

After you are done with your first partner, you then go to the next one. This process repeats until you have seen every woman during the event.

Speed dating is ideal for men who are shy and have problems in approaching women. In this event, you do not need to use the mystery method or worry on how you will approach them. You can start with a “Hi” then introduce yourself and get on with the conversation. Another good thing about speed dating is that you get to meet several women. You do not just meet them casually but you really have the chance to talk with them. If you don't succeed with speed dating, then I think it’s about time you have to learn some dating skills.

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Signs That She is Flirting With You

If you are a pickup artist, you will not have a hard time looking for dates. In fact, women will be the ones looking for you. But what if you are not a pickup artist? What if you are no way near the dating skills of David DeAngelo? Do you think women will ever be interested in you? Will you ever get a date?

The answer to the above questions is yes. If you are going out, attending a party or any social gathering, you cannot avoid to mingle with other people unless you really intend to. These social gatherings are a good opportunity to meet women and find a date. If you have no idea what the mystery method is, no need to worry because you can find a date without it. Just make sure that you look good enough and wear enough self-confidence. Mingle with people and spot for girls who shows some sign that they are flirting with you or that they like you.

How they do that? Here are some signs:

1. She winks at you at a distance or even while talking to you.

2. She is playing with her hair while looking at you.

3. She bites her lips, shows her tongue, or licks her lips.

4. She puts her fingernail in between her teeth.

5. She touches your hand, shoulder, or thigh while talking to you.

6. Among other guests or people around the place, she talks to you only and gives all her attention to no one but you.

7. She crosses her legs and points it towards you; while her legs are crossed, she rocks it back and forth towards you. (But make sure she also looks at you from time to time or you might just misinterpret her.)

8. She looks at you with deep interest while her pupils are dilated.

9. Perhaps the most obvious is when she blushes when you're around.

Social gatherings gives you more chances of getting a date because of the number of people present. If you don't have good dating skills, and you don't have time to delve in on how Neil Strauss penetrated the secret society of Pickup Artists, it would be an advantage if you can tell that a woman is flirting with you. It'll be much easier to approach her knowing that she's into you.

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Dating Tips For Men: How to Impress a Woman

One particular thing that is common amongst men is their effort to impress a woman. You would often hear women complain about how their boyfriends or their husbands have changed over time. It is because men tend to impress them on their first meeting, on their first date, or during the early stage of their relationship. Unlike Neil Strauss or any other pickup artists, average men would try to “behave” during this stage because they want to attract a woman by creating a good impression to them.

In meeting women, or even just trying to catch their attention, men would do unusual things, be very generous, extra kind and sweet, etc. just to impress them: They would only say things that they think would impress her; they tend to get formal during a conversation, and; they avoid teasing her or do anything that they think would upset her. 

These things actually make you become unnatural. Sometimes, in trying to avoid screwing things up on your first meeting, being unnatural can, in fact, screw it all up. We cannot really avoid it most of the times because we want to attract women. But haven’t you wondered why it does not usually work? Women may be impressed but they don’t get attracted to you.

You may have learned about the mystery method and other dating techniques from pickup artists. But the best way to impress a woman is by being natural. Forget about trying to impress her. Make her feel emotionally attracted to you. Do not memorize any scripts or pickup lines. Relax, be confident, and enjoy her company.

Make her feel comfortable when talking to you. Don’t be afraid to tease her but do it gently. Humor hasn’t backfired in attracting women yet, so keep it going. You may try the cocky & funny technique by David DeAngelo. But you need to be really good at it for it to work effectively.

Each man has their own unique qualities that will attract women. If you try to be someone you’re not, it won’t be too attractive for her. If you want to learn some dating skills, you need to practice first until it becomes natural in you. Remember, don’t try hard to look or sound cool in front of her. It’s usually obvious when men do that.

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3 Things Men Need To Develop To Attract Women

It is no secret that majority of men (if not all) gets nervous when asking a woman out for a date. Approaching women even scares the hell out of most of us. Honestly, one of the reasons behind this is our fear of rejection. It would be such a shame if we get rejected. But rejection is something that we cannot avoid. Even David DeAngelo, an expert in dating, cannot avoid rejection.

Not all of us may want to be a pickup artist or use any of their techniques like the mystery method, but let’s admit it, these pickup artists have the skills that most of us wishes to have.

If you don’t want to be a pickup artist but you want to learn how to attract women, consider these three tips:

Confidence – Develop your self-confidence, it will be your best asset. Women get more attracted to confident men that those who are not. But don’t be over-confident as it may destroy you. Nobody likes an arrogant being. The best thing to do is to stay calm and relax to avoid nervousness. If she feels that you are nervous, she will think that you lack confidence and that will not attract her.

Listening Skills – Good communication is how you should play it. Most dating tips would advise you to think of interesting topics or give you some script. But the key to a good communication is listening. If you listen to what she has to say, it wouldn’t be too difficult to think on what to say next. In fact, your conversation might go smoothly.

Good Grooming – Physical appearance also matters to women. They may not really be looking for handsome or hot men, but what they look in your physical appearance is overall cleanliness. You don’t need to dress like Mystery the Pickup Artist. Just make sure you have taken a bath, shaved, cleaned your shoes, ironed your clothes, etc.

If you don’t want to attend a bootcamp, seminars, or pickup trainings, just develop more confidence, practice your listening skills, and get yourself well-groomed. It will all be enough to start attracting women.

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How To Flirt With Women

It looks very easy for women to flirt with men. Maybe because men are easy to please and tempt. They can use their beauty and some "assets" to easily seduce men. Most of the time, they can naturally be flirts even if they don't mean to. While for men, even approaching women gives us an adrenaline rush.

If that is the case, dating can be harder compared to women. So men should learn how to flirt, too. Its not like showing some skin like women do. They can't be seduced in that way. The mystery method and other dating techniques might do but a little flirting will be easier and more fun. You do not have to follow the footsteps of David DeAngelo or "Penetrate the Secret Society of the Pickup Artists" like what Neil Strauss did.

Every man is capable of flirting in their own way. Sometimes, if they like a woman, they'd be a little show-off or they would act in an unusual way - either a bit shier or more hyped. But doing it the right way can be useful in winning her.

Some guys' flirting skills come out only when texting or when interacting online. But when put face-to-face, they become shy. These men will be outplayed by those who are more confident and up-front. If you get too flirtatious over text and not so much in real life, it will be a problem once you both start to go out on a real date.

In flirting, confidence is your best asset. If you think you do not have that, don't worry, it can be developed. Learn how to be confident and practice more often so that it would come out naturally when you attempt to flirt with someone.

Be very careful when you try to flirt. You should do it right or else it will be over. Giving too much of a complement to a woman might make her feel awkward. Timing is important. Also, play a little hard to get. It is more fun and it will make her want you more.

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