The Skills To Develop In Pickup and Seduction

In dating, physical appearance and intelligence is not the ultimate asset of men. If you notice, when you were in school, hot girls don’t date those intelligent guys. You will see them going out with the bullies, athletes, the naughty ones, but not with the genius guys. Take note that we are using the word, “intelligent” here instead of “smart”. There’s a heck of a difference between the two and I am not going to delve deeper into differentiating them.

Moving on, these intelligent guys may seem to be the ideal type for most women. Yet, the hot ladies end up going out with the “skilled” ones. I’m referring to guys who have skills when it comes to women. Mystery the pickup artist doesn’t look like any woman’s ideal man. But he founded the mystery method which is very effective in pickup and seduction. Now see how successful he is when it comes to dating women.

Most of these intelligent men lack is social skill. Some guys may have all the qualities – smart, good looking, clean and tidy – but if they lack the skills, those qualities will be useless in dating. Doesn’t David DeAngelo look exactly what I have described? But David D. has already gone past that stage and is now a dating expert. We may live in a modern society but old practices don’t die – men are still expected to do the first move. That is why social skill is a very important factor in pickup.

Being intelligent is a good quality but it isn’t enough. It is definitely a good quality but couple it with social skills and you’ll be a total catch for women. Nobody wants to talk to a walking dictionary and nobody wants to go out with a boring person.

Social skill per se is a broad term. There are a lot of things to learn if you want to be an expert in dating: Confidence, dating etiquettes, openers, personal development, and the likes. But once you get the hang of these all, it will all be worth it.

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The Mystery Method Discussed

The Mystery Method is one of the most popular dating techniques today. It is developed by none other than Mystery. His book, "The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed" was written in 2007. Since then, it has become very popular that every man interested in pickup is using the technique.

The mystery method is not just a simple dating technique. It is composed of several phases: Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction. Each of these phases are divided into 3 parts:

Attraction:

Approach

Attracting the HB or female-to-male interest

Male-to-female interest

Comfort:

Building rapport

Building emotional connection and physical connection

Intimacy

Seduction:

Foreplay

LMR

Sex

Each of these parts are divided into different approaches. Looks complicated? The mystery method is not that difficult as you think. But you have to be serious and eager to learn and succeed in it.

Now, because of its popularity, even women are aware of the mystery method already. Most men think that it is overused now and that it won't be as effective as before. There is no doubt to Mystery's skills as a pickup artist. It has been tested and proven. So it would really be nice to get something new from him.

More men prefer to learn other techniques in dating now that the mystery method is getting more publicity. Men are now shifting their attention to other pickup artists. These PUAs has developed their own pickup techniques as well.

The Cocky & Funny technique by David DeAngelo has been widely used also. Being cocky & funny works well if you use it correctly - not too cocky and not too funny. Julian Foxx and Vin DiCarlo developed a technique on Phone Game. Simple yet very effective.

These techniques by other pickup artists are also very helpful in dating. Their only difference with the Mystery Method is popularity. Mystery had a tv show with VH1, so there is no question on how the Mystery Method got more popular than other pickup techniques.

In learning pickup and seduction, you just have to be serious in it. It is not just about learning the techniques in women but it is more on improving yourself.

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How To Look Good To Attract Women

Men get easily attracted to beautiful and sexy women. But it doesn’t work that way for them. They get more attracted to your personality rather than your face and figure (though it would be an added bonus for them if you look good). Take a look at David DeAngelo. He doesn’t look like a pickup artist but he’s an expert in dating.

Although the truth is, appearance of men also matters for women in a somehow different way. If the first thing you check on a woman is her face or breasts, women would check on little but important details like your tidiness. It would be a total turn-off if they see that your fingernails are dirty. Women check out our looks in a different way.

Usually, being cocky & funny isn’t enough in attracting women. If you think you have succeeded on attracting a woman by that technique of David DeAngelo, do not be too confident yet. Once she sees your dirty shoes or even your lousy attire, she would easily get turned-off.

Pickup and seduction is not just about dating techniques, you should take care of yourself, too. If there is anything about your physical appearance that isn’t attractive, or might put women off, do something about it. If you feel that you don’t have a sense of fashion, try searching for what’s IN for men right now. Observe how other men choose their outfit. If you have a bad breath, try to get rid of it. Even just taking care of your hygiene would help a lot on improving your physical appearance.

You don’t need to spend much in taking care of yourself, especially your hygiene. It is actually one of the dating techniques used by other men and maybe even some pickup artists. It will not also take much of your time to make yourself look clean like shaving, brushing your teeth, polishing your shoes, and stuffs like that. Try to find that article from the pickup artist, Julian Foxx, about taking care of your hygiene. It is where I have learned the importance of our hygiene. They were just simple tips but they can create a great impact on women.

So aside from learning dating techniques, you should also start learning on how to make yourself look good at least by being neat and clean. The mystery method and other dating techniques can be effective in attracting ladies, but it would be more effective if you make yourself look good and presentable.

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Overcome Shyness When Approaching Women

Shyness is one of men's greatest weaknesses when it comes to women. Well, maybe except for David DeAngelo or other pickup artists who are already experts in dating with women.  This is the reason why some men find it hard to approach a woman.

There is actually a reason towards this attitude of men.  First, we are afraid of rejection.  What comes into our mind if we get rejected is the shame.  Second, we are afraid of how the girl will react. "Will she ignore me?," or "She might just laugh at me" is what we usually expect.  Third, we are afraid that we might say the wrong thing to her.  There could be other possible reasons aside from these three but one thing common is that they're all negative thinking. 

All of these shyness problems root our negative thinking.  When we plan to approach a We woman, we think of countless negative possibilities. That is why we get nervous, hesitant to approach them, and most often, we backout.

Have you thought how Mystery and other pickup artists have an oozing self confidence?  Truth is, most of these pickup artists and dating experts doesn't know how to approach women as well.  They just learned how to overcome shyness and gain self-confidence.

So for us, we should not just accept the fact that we cannot date any woman because we are naturally shy.  No, we are shy because we think it that way.  If David DeAngelo have learned to overcome shyness, so we can, too.

Here are simple tips on how to overcome your shyness:

1. Think positively.  We've already identified the root of our shyness towards girls and that is negative thinking.  So we must not entertain these negative thoughts.

2. Just because you like this beautiful and hot girl, doesn't mean you can't have her.  Put this in mind: physical appearance may be very important for us, but it doesn't work that way for women.  They are more attracted with a man's personality rather than physical appearance alone.

3. Practice.  Approach some women you like in just a friendly and casual manner. Just choose the woman that you like less and are shy to approach.

4. Take the risk.  If you don't try to do it, you'll never succeed and will remain shy with women.  Unless you like it that way, you should start gaining more confidence and be more positive about yourself.

It will be a long process but imagine being like the pickup artist who is confident and can date any woman he likes.  It will be very rewarding to overcome your shyness

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Pickup Artists Are Not Born Experts

A very common problem for men is their failure at women. Men dream of going out with the woman they love, like, admire, or just simply with a beautiful lady they want to meet. If you happen to be familiar with the seduction community, you may envy the dating experts David DeAngelo, Mystery, Julian Foxx, or Neil Strauss for their skills in attracting women. Well, envy no more because most of these pickup artists were also one of us who couldn't get a woman to date with. In short, they were not born to be experts in women like us.

Let's talk about Neil Strauss a.k.a. Style. He authored the New York Times Bestseller, "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick-up Artists." The book tells about his experience in entering the pickup artist community.

The book maybe about pickup but Neil Strauss was not born a pickup artist nor an expert in dating. Although he is now considered to be a famous pickup artist, Neil Strauss is actually an American author - a contributing editor at Rolling Stone and he also writes for The New York Times.

Just like David DeAngelo, Neil Strauss was also one of the guys who couldn't get any girls to date with. So when he came across the seduction community, he started to join online discussion groups. As he got more involved, Neil Strauss attended Mystery's bootcamp. The bootcamp is what helped Style become a pickup artist. He learned different advice and techniques on how to approach a woman, how to respond in certain situations, and most especially how to be a real pickup artist.

All of these experiences in his journey in becoming a pickup artist were written in his book, "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick-up Artists." From then on, he became one of the famous pickup artists in the community.

See, the famous Neil Strauss was once a failure in dating with women but he managed to become a pickup artist. You may not dream of becoming a famous pickup artist like him but you can be an expert in dating with women.

You may start by joining online communities, read and participate on discussions about pickup and seduction. That way, you will become more familiar about dating and pickup. PUAs usually give out free dating tips in their newsletters, so subscribe to them. When you're ready, attending trainings, seminars, or a bootcamp will be more helpful.

Now that we know how these famous dating experts became who they are now, there is no reason to envy them. Instead, we should be more encouraged to develop our own skills and be an expert with women, too.

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