March 09, 2010

Overcome Shyness When Approaching Women

Shyness is one of men's greatest weaknesses when it comes to women. Well, maybe except for David DeAngelo or other pickup artists who are already experts in dating with women.  This is the reason why some men find it hard to approach a woman.

There is actually a reason towards this attitude of men.  First, we are afraid of rejection.  What comes into our mind if we get rejected is the shame.  Second, we are afraid of how the girl will react. "Will she ignore me?," or "She might just laugh at me" is what we usually expect.  Third, we are afraid that we might say the wrong thing to her.  There could be other possible reasons aside from these three but one thing common is that they're all negative thinking. 

All of these shyness problems root our negative thinking.  When we plan to approach a We woman, we think of countless negative possibilities. That is why we get nervous, hesitant to approach them, and most often, we backout.

Have you thought how Mystery and other pickup artists have an oozing self confidence?  Truth is, most of these pickup artists and dating experts doesn't know how to approach women as well.  They just learned how to overcome shyness and gain self-confidence.

So for us, we should not just accept the fact that we cannot date any woman because we are naturally shy.  No, we are shy because we think it that way.  If David DeAngelo have learned to overcome shyness, so we can, too.

Here are simple tips on how to overcome your shyness:

1. Think positively.  We've already identified the root of our shyness towards girls and that is negative thinking.  So we must not entertain these negative thoughts.

2. Just because you like this beautiful and hot girl, doesn't mean you can't have her.  Put this in mind: physical appearance may be very important for us, but it doesn't work that way for women.  They are more attracted with a man's personality rather than physical appearance alone.

3. Practice.  Approach some women you like in just a friendly and casual manner. Just choose the woman that you like less and are shy to approach.

4. Take the risk.  If you don't try to do it, you'll never succeed and will remain shy with women.  Unless you like it that way, you should start gaining more confidence and be more positive about yourself.

It will be a long process but imagine being like the pickup artist who is confident and can date any woman he likes.  It will be very rewarding to overcome your shyness

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