How to Find a Date

There are a lot of ways on how to find a date. The most effective is in a social gathering where there are many women. You may have seen Neil Strauss and other pickup artists doing their stunts at nightclubs. But for those who are not too skilled in dating, it could really be hard to approach women in such occasions. Well, as I've said, there are a lot of ways...

Perhaps you have heard of speed dating. It is called speed dating because you get to date 20-30 dates in just an hour. Wow, honestly I cannot imagine dating 20 women in just an hour. But in speed dating, it is possible. Sounds interesting huh?

Speed dating is not your ordinary idea of dating. It is not the kind of dating that David DeAngelo would recommend, I suppose. It is actually a service offered by some companies. Basically, a number of women are grouped together and each of them has cards that represent the men. On the other hand, men are assigned a place and they also have the numbers that represent the women.

Any man can start with any woman. For example, man number twelve can start with woman number 1 or 2. Then each couple is given five to ten minutes to talk. It depends on the company’s procedure but it usually ranges from four minutes to ten minutes. During that time, each couple can talk just about anything - interests, sports, sex, movies, etc. When the time is up, each man and woman will mark their partner's number with a 'yes' or a 'no'. Yes means that you are interested with him/her and if you both marked a yes to each other, you will get his/her contact details in a few days.

After you are done with your first partner, you then go to the next one. This process repeats until you have seen every woman during the event.

Speed dating is ideal for men who are shy and have problems in approaching women. In this event, you do not need to use the mystery method or worry on how you will approach them. You can start with a “Hi” then introduce yourself and get on with the conversation. Another good thing about speed dating is that you get to meet several women. You do not just meet them casually but you really have the chance to talk with them. If you don't succeed with speed dating, then I think it’s about time you have to learn some dating skills.