The Pickup Artist Sits Like A Procurer To Avoid Anxiety

Don't you feel anxious towards a girl even just talking with her on the phone? If not entirely, there could be times when you get into an awkward topic, or that you may feel tensed or pressured in a certain moment. Some girls tend to be really dominant especially in a conversation, and this is just on the phone. That's why some guys would get intimidated by them.

So here is one of the most simple dating tips that will instantly pump up your phone game...

This technique is called: 'Sit Like A Procurer'

Yeah, you read right, but bear with me for a minute.

Just before you call a lady you may be interested in (or perhaps she's calling you), it is extremely helpful to sit down, and get into a comfortable 'Procurer-like' physical position. If you are not sure what that looks like go watch 'Hustle n' Flow' or turn on BET.

The key to finding your own personal inner Procurer is one thing:

Comfort. Physical comfort is your gauge. If you like to sit in the couch with your legs crossed, then go ahead. I personally like to lean back, stretch my legs out, and take up as much space as I want.

If you have a plush couch or comfy chair (or anything really) go ahead and give this technique a try RIGHT NOW. Maybe grab a rocks glass and try it with a drink in your hand if it helps. Practice it until you've got it.

Phase 2: Now call a girl you've been interested in, but make sure you are 'Sittin' like a Procurer.' Stay in position throughout the phone call and notice if and when you begin to reflexively change into a less comfortable position.

What you will probably find in this dating advice is that this new 'Procurer-like' physical position is going to accomplish two things:

A) It will automatically put you into a more dominant and relaxed frame. This will give you a clearer mind that will make you think of some appropriate conversational skills to use towards her.

B) It will help to relieve any excess anxiety you may be experiencing over calling her.

Remember: If you are really physically relaxed, it is a lot harder to experience emotional distress.

WARNING: Do not take this too far! The exercise is 'Sit like a Procurer' NOT 'Smack her in the face if she don't got my loot!'

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Seduction and Dating Tips - The iPod For 2 Technique

We somehow feel that awkward moment during the first few minutes of meeting our date. But of course, we eventually get the hang of it. To help get you through those occasionally awkward first few minutes of a 'date,' here is a Super simple dating advice from the pickup artist. Although it can be used at any time throughout the meeting.

Julian Foxx calls it: 'Ipod for 2'

Now this dating advice works in almost any environment and most situations.

So here's a scenario: You've just met a girl by the subway station near your house. (you got her to come to meet you right?:) It is your first 'date' and you are wearing an Ipod. You say your Hello's, and begin some playful banter.

Step 1: As you are walking along the street towards your destination, you say "Oh Wow, you have got to listen to this."

And hand her just one of the earbuds. (If you're feeling bold, go ahead and stick it in her ear for her;) The key is that the other earbud stays in your ear, preferably the one closer to her...

Step 2: Play whatever song you want. The trick is to share something with her that you genuinely enjoy listening to and are hopefully even passionate about. Just don't play U2's, "With or Without You" because that would just be lame.

In fact, to be on the safe side, stay away from anything too lovey dovey sounding.

Step 3: Just be with her as the music plays and keep heading towards your destination. (Doesn't matter if you're stationary or sitting down btw)

The benefit of this technique is twofold;

1. You are sharing something with her that has meaning to you. This sets the stage for her to share something personal back.

2. It isn't possible to share Ipod headphones and NOT be constantly touching the person you're sharing them with... The more music you play her, the more comfortable she is getting with your touch. And it is totally incidental! (How else could you both listen?)In other words, you have a legitimate and excusable reason to be that physically close to her. 'Ipod for 2' is one of the most simple yet effective dating tips for men that you can even use it anytime throughout the interaction, so don't feel obligated to try it at the very beginning.

In fact, if the date is going well it has much more potential impact when used after some initial bonding has occurred.

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Dating Advice - The 'Perfume to Her Room' Technique

Here's a super effective dating advice from Julian Foxx that we've had a lot of success with:

It is called, the 'Perfume to Her Room'

You can usually use it on a first date, but for the more advanced it can also be used immediately after opening her. Lets assume for this example that you are meeting her at a bar for a date and you've just walked in. (Because naturally you were later than her right?;)

Step 1: Establish a reason to get physically close to her. (hug, high five, doesn't matter)

Step 2: Notice her perfume.

Step 3: Say something like: "Oh my God, what is that?? That smells amazing!" Even if it stinks. You now have a legitimate reason to continue smelling her throughout the evening.

Step 4: Look for opportunities throughout the interaction to keep smelling her. You can say something like, "Man, your perfume really is great, I gotta smell that again." Don't ask for permission to smell it, you simply can't resist!

Providing you are both having a decent time this trick will allow you to smoothly transition from innocently smelling her to eventually nuzzling your face in her neck. Now at some point she will become totally conscious of what you are doing...but that's okay! Usually by the time that happens you've already created a good amount of intimacy and she is fine with it.

So you may be wondering, 'how many times over the course of a date should I actually smell her?'

As many as you like. Usually pickup artists are in the ballpark of 4-8. The important thing is not how many times, but whether or not each time is progressively becoming more intimate.

You may also be wondering, 'when is the best time to do it?'

You may save it for right after a highpoint in the interaction. (A shared laugh, a moment of meaningful eye contact, etc.) However, these dating tips can also function as a failsafe to pull out of your back pocket if you run out of things to talk about or you want to change the subject.

And finally, what happens when she says, "I'm not wearing any perfume." Simple adjustment: Do everything explained above just change the word perfume to soap or even natural scent. Ex: "Not perfume?? No way, I don't believe you. Let me check again... (you double check;) Well, you've got the best damn natural scent I've ever smelled. Wow."

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Dating Tips For Men: Improving Your Calibration

Guys usually talk about calibration. Most dating tips for men include such thing. But what does calibration REALLY mean in relation to dating?

You could open the dictionary and easily look up a dozen different definitions for the word.

But there is one in particular that the pickup artist should put in mind:

cal·i·brate [kal-uh-breyt] -verb

-to determine the correct range for (an artillery gun, mortar, etc.) by observing where the fired projectile hits.

Please read that again because it is a perfect analogy for what we are trying to accomplish in a seduction.

Every guru and their mother make reference to calibration but tend to be extremely vague when talking about how to IMPROVE IT.

There are a lot of sorts of crap, everything from "You just have to practice more" to "Calibration can't be taught, that's why naturals are naturals."

Such bullshit. If I could put a sound effect in right now it would be that annoying buzzer from Family Feud.

Of course calibration can be improved! And here's a technique that will do it. This dating advice is called:

'Imaginary Action Reversal'

In a nutshell it's quite simple...

Before you start down a risky conversational topic, send a text message, make a phone call, go in for the kiss, or any other assortment of actions you might take with a woman, it is useful to IMAGINE that whatever you are about to do...she does to you instead!

Then ask yourself:

"Did I just get MORE attracted or LESS attracted to her?"

And finally, allow your intuitive response to guide your decision whether or not to make the move.

Think about it...

Who is the best judge you have to determine if an action is 'attractive' or not?

You guessed it, it's YOU.

They say men are from Mars and woman are from Jupiter or whatever, but we sure got a lot of things in common and one of those things is definitely attraction.

Behavior that normally turns me off, usually turns a woman off. And behavior that normally turns me on, usually turns a woman on.

We are not as different as society has us believe.

So if you'd like to take your own calibration to the next level, here is a quick recap of the steps:

1. You get an impulse to say or do something that relates to her

2. You imagine HER saying or doing it to YOU

3. You pay attention to your own emotional response (to the image) and let the quality of your response determine whether or not you go through with the action.

Easy as Pie.

Practicing this exercise is simple, fun, and an amazingly effective way of developing pin-point calibration.

PS: Depending on the situation, the amount of TIME you have to use the technique is a factor. You don't want to interrupt the flow of a good conversation if you don't have to.

Just be confident that the more comfortable you become with Imaginary Action Reversal, the faster you will get, and eventually it will become something you are always subliminally aware of.

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Dating Tips: An Effective Technique From The Pickup Artist

The following dating tips are plain ol' dirty. Some men may not even find it worthy but hey, this is proven to be really effective. So its worth a post in here.

This dating advice is called, 'Yourspace IS Myspace' technique. Obviously you will have to indulge yourself into some social networking sites or online dating profiles like myspace, facebook, etc. to make this technique work.

Let's take a look at this typical seduction scenario...

Once you have been able to get her number, you will either start to text or call her, getting her on the phone. Either you text or call her, your goal is to find out specific things about her like the things she's interested to or passionate about.

Learn from these few examples that you should be after:

'She loves The Dark Knight because of Heath Ledger, she craves for a strawberry ice cream, she is into photography, etc.'

Meanwhile, as we progressively collect these information from her, we should also be simultaneously logged in to our Myspace account. What do we do then? If you guessed to quickly edit our personal details, then you got it right, we should match it to hers.

But you should not of course copy it plainly. Use more of your imagination here. For example, if she said she loves The Dark Knight movie because of Health Ledger, put in your profile that The Dark Knight is one of your favorite movies. Then add in parenthesis - (Heath Ledger made it more fantastic).

Next thing to do after gathering two or more personal information from her, accuse her of stalking into your myspace profile (remember that you should have already made the changes in your profile by this time).

You can tell her that you already think she's awesome and she don't have to pretend that she has all of those things in common with you. Naturally, she might sound surprised and deny it. Then you can reply back "okkk..." still with a tone of disbelief. When she asks for your myspace, reply something like, "I think you already know, but just for kicks its myspace.co******." She will then check on it and will be totally surprised.

You may realize at this point that you already have created an instant bonding between the two of you. So, in this technique, she did not only buy it but you will have a higher perceived status because she still have to persuade you that she was not trying to seduce you.

At some point, do acknowledge with her that there is something pretty special going on and discard first the 'playful suspicion.'

Now when you reach the point where you both get excited about the things you have in common, it is a good opportunity for you to make plans for your date. Good thing about this is that you will have various options as to what to do with her; meet in an ice cream parlor, watch a movie, etc. The point here is that you have an idea on what to do together simply because "you both love so many similar things."

I told you this technique can be considered a bit underhanded, not to mention, cheesy. But what matters is most is that it works!

You do have to make sure that your Facebook or Myspace profile settings that allow people to see when you've made updates to your profile is off. Also, it is very important that she has never really seen your profile yet.

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The Pickup Artist Knows How To Deal With Rejection

Perhaps one of the crappiest dating tips for guys is what some people call the '5 for 5.' It says that the true master pickup artist can sleep with 5 out of 5 girls he approaches. If you are not a Master pickup artist, then you'll be regarded as an AFC. Nothing in between.

That way of thinking is just plain ridiculous. Perfection in pickup DOES NOT exist. Well, perfection does not exist in this world, anyways.

Though this belief is good for business. If guys who study this stuff believe in this crap, it means more profit for those who sell products, workshops, etc. The '5 for 5' concept is just no true even if you ask a famous pickup artist.

However, what we must understand is that these workshops and products for pickup can really help us improve. A shy, unskilled guy can be transformed into an effective pickup artist if he wants to. Its just that we must not fall into this belief of perfection because there is no such thing. The '5 for f' belief can destroy those guys who train to get better. Why? Because the '5 for 5' concept is an unattainable goal for them.

To tell you the truth, the pickup artist faces rejection as well, even if he's the greatest one in the field. That's for real. If you get to sleep with 20% of the girls you pursue, you are already a great pickup artist and even on the 99th percentile of guys.

The real sign that a pickup artist is indeed a great one, is how he deals with rejection, not how little he deals with it.

There are different skill sets that composes that effectiveness of the pickup artist. Like slices of pizza, each part is relevant to your success. One of these important skills is how he is able to deal with rejection. So it is as important to practice dealing with rejection as practicing a new conversational skill or improving our energy. It is an important part of the pickup artist training to cope with rejection in a productive manner and is a vital part of the game.

It is very crucial to learn how to deal with rejection. If you deal with it poorly, rejection can be debilitating. But once you have properly harnessed it within yourself, it has the power to be our greatest teacher.

That's an important dating advice that we should always keep in mind every time a girl says 'No.'

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Dating Tips On How To Improve Your Scent

It is time to talk about hygiene guys.

According to scientific data, women choose their mates due to perceived strength of the man's immune system. It can also give a better chance of survival to her offspring. Recent research also suggests that the SCENT of a man determines his immune system's strength.

You may wonder how it all relates to dating. Well it is one of the factors that gives a high impact to the level of success you have with women. Some factor could be your posture, social circle, fashion sense, and of course your looks.

The point here is that there's no point mastering every dating skill if you are still funky or something. So here's something to work on yourself. Its a bit risky and well, scary but it will be worth it.

First off, find a person whom you can trust with and ask them you need a serious favor. Then make them swear that they would be completely honest with you. After that, get close to them - really close - and exhale directly into their face without warning them. You don't have to 'blow' into their face but make sure you go "hhhhaaaaaahhh," right from the back of your throat.

Important that you know the truth. Ask your friend to rate your breath and body odor on a scale of 1-10 - with 10 being the highest - so as to get an honest answer. That way, you'll get a more honest answer.

Here are your dating tips for a real fresh breath aside from listerine, flossing, and brushing:

1. Use a tonge scraper - get the ones that are long and wirey looking and not the ones that are attached to a toothbrush.

2. Mint-a-sure - these are little capsules you swallow that gives you fresh breath from the belly. If they are not available in your local drugstore, get them online. You don't have to chew a gum with these ones.

For a Great Smelling Hair:

3. There are a lot of known good brands of shampoo and conditioner for men. But it will not be effective for you unless you really scrub it into your scalp with your fingers.

For a Great Smelling Body:

4. Use a loofa or exfoliating gloves in the shower along with soap and then a body wash.

5. Baby wipes - use them after you take a crap. You might hesitate on this one but girls will feel a lot better about putting her mouth where the sun don't shine.

6. If you have an underarm odor issua, try shaving (or trimming) your armpits. They will look better and will work in your anti-perspirant as well. The armpit hair can serve as a barrier to your anti-perspirant.

7. Then again, if underarm odor is an issue, you can also use prescription strenth anti-perspirant like Certain Dri. Apply it before going to bed but make sure not to put too much of it.

Following these dating tips can increase your level of success to women plus you will smell better to people around you. This will also help us boost our confidence because we know that we smell great. In the pickup artist and dating community, confidence is one of their secrets. So we should have it with ourselves as well.

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Dating Tips For Men: Know How To Meet Attractive Women

Most men think that they aren't lucky enough to be able to meet beautiful and sexy women. Unlike in the pickup artist and dating community where most men find it easy to meet beautiful and sexy women.

These men aren't lucky. Yes they aren't. They just have the knowledge and the skills when it comes to women. The ones who's got the good looks may really be lucky, but all that matters is the strategy and the skills.

I just found a real effective way on how to meet the most attractive and hot women. Though it is very much applicable if you live in a fairly metropolitan area. So this will not work if you live in a farm.

So for those who are near or in the metropolitan area, here's how to meet beautiful women.

First, search for newspapers or websites in your area that cater to actors or models. Living in New York City can give you more options. The Backstage, The Ross Reports, and many others. Once you do this, you can then use them to identify the major casting offices and modeling agencies near or within your area.

Then, check for the advertisement and know when will the next audition or castings will be held by a particular office. These are the probable times when hot girls would go to.

Such advertisements that you should look out for are:

"Short Indy Film - Drama - Looking for male lead and also looking to cast 3 gorgeous blondes as main characters. Must be busty and comfortable with nudity. Auditions will be held at..."

You should definitely go to that one. Or to ads like this one:

"Models Wanted! New Agency is looking for the newest and hottest talent, come wearing form fitting clothing..."

Then you show up to the venue. Best thing to do is go to a coffee shop nearby the office or event and start watching or rather selecting for the girls you want to approach as they leave the casting. But if you'd like to go to the casting, then its up to you.

This could be such a big thing to do just to meet these beautiful and hot women. Well, you want to meet beautiful and hot women, right? Why not go to a place that has the most attractive and hottest women that you can bump into?

Follow these dating tips if you really want to meet beautiful and sexy women. There could be other places flooded with such women, that's where you should be spending most of your time.

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Dating Tips For Guys: Effective Ways To Succeed With Hot Girls

Have you ever thought how you do with the most attractive girls out there? Did you measure your success rate with them? Then compare them with your success rate with the average or the ones slightly below their level. You may not be surprised to find out that you do well with the ones that you just kind of like to. This actually happens to most men.

What we think then is that these hot girls are more selective than the average ones. If you think about it, it does makes sense. But this sounds more like an excuse for us. Because these girls aren't as choosy as what we've thought them to be. Our own behavior is what actually changes when it comes to these attractive girls because of what we think of them. This may sound cliche but it is actually true. We just sometimes feel intimidated because of their appearance and maybe status in the society especially when they're really popular.

So how do we deal with it? Here's one specific way:

Whenever you put a number of that hot girl on your phone, how do you name them? We usually put something like, "Sexy Monique," or "Scarlet Hot!" This kind of classification can affect our behavior in a subtle but negative way. For example, when you make a call to "Sexy Monique" you will feel more adrenaline than when you simply call "Monique."

So here's a dating advice from the pickup artist, Julian Foxx, its what he calls, "Reverse Classification."

Whenever you get a hot girl's phone number, look at her closely, and imagine what her juvenile class mates used to call her. If she's got nice fake breast, may she was flat as board and they probably called her "wall chest" or something. If she's tall and blonde, perhaps they called her "Monique Big Bird."

Now that you get the idea, next step is to store her name in your phone in that way (Scarlet Wall Chest, Monique Big Bird, etc.).

It will not only reduce any anxiety you feel whenever you call her, but it will also lessen your anxiety towards her when you're together. This can also help you gain more self-confidence and feel less intimidated around her.

Remember, these attractive girls are not really selective, its us who think that way and that's what keeping our success rates with them low. There could be other ways to overcome this aside from the "Reverse Classification" method. More dating tips soon.

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A Pickup Challenge Video from Julian Foxx

Names like Julian Foxx, Mystery, and many others are hitting up the pickup artist and dating community. The pickup artists are known for their expertise in women. Here’s a controversial video of Julian Foxx challenging Style for a friendly Pickup contest.

The second video though cannot be posted here because I got it from www.julianfoxx.com. So if you want to see it, visit the site and sign up for the video. Just provide them with your email and you will receive it in an instant. I just got my copy and its real cool. Check the video and there are some dating tips for guys to use effectively on women.

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The Benefits of Being Early

Tardiness is something that's really normal to most of us. Most common situation could be in school for students. Even I have always been late whether it was a doctor's appointment or a party, I always find myself asking for apologies.

Tardiness in fact has become a way of life for most of us. Some don't care about it and are even proud of it. For those who are used to it, its easy to get their selves out of trouble most of the time.

Here's a realization for all of us though: the amount of opportunities we get are directly correlated to how EARLY we are to things.

Here's an example situation:

I had a dinner meeting with a client at exactly 8pm and there I was, bursting my way out of the house when I suddenly remembered that I have changed the clock the night before. So I checked at my wristwatch and I wasn't late yet. In fact, I have some more time to kill.

So being early was something new to me. So I took my time getting to the place. I stopped into a coffee shop first and picked up some coffee.

Then I got myself with about half a dozen girls, and two of which I actually ended up sleeping with.

That's how I realized that if hadn't been running early, I would never have met those women. Also, it was a very relaxing state for me being early which was clearly perceptible to the women I have been chatting with.

Through this, I have also realized that my behavior pattern before had lost me some opportunities. Because every time I was running late to something I couldn't get to talk to some girls I saw. I always ran out of time and that is my excuse as always. However valid it may seem, it was still an excuse.

With that excuse, the solution was very clear and its my dating advice for you guys:

Start being early!

We usually meet women on our way to somewhere. Since most of us are not full time pickup artist, it is not as easy to approach women and chat with them as how the pickup artist do it. So being early would give us more time to meet people especially women.

So you'll thank me later with these dating tips of mine if you get to meet more women by being early. Though there are instances where its fine to be late and that's a date with a woman.

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Dating Tips For Men: How to Avoid Anxiety on Your Date

Anxiety has always been a hassle when we are dating. It keeps us from doing some tactics in impressing or maybe seducing our date - be it a learned or practiced tactic. It makes us forget the things that we practiced or some things that we have planned to do. Sometimes, anxiety is even visible in our face - sweating, blushing, etc. So to avoid feeling anxious around your date, here's a quick dating advice:

This is a technique that the pickup artist, Julian Foxx, calls "Imagine that..."

From the title of the technique, you can almost guess how its done. Yes, this is the time to use your imagination. Simply imagine something specific about her.

For example, If you are square-faced. You might like to imagine that she's totally head over heels when it comes to square-faced men. Or if you're wearing a black shirt or polo, try to imagine that its a total "turn-on" to her.

If she is particularly a redhead, imagine that her high school friends or school mates call her "Ginger."If you notice that she's got some mannerism like adjusting her shirt more often, or fixing her hair with her fingers, run your imagination through them. You can interpret these mannerisms in your own way. So everytime she adjusts her shirt could mean she's feeling horny at the moment. When she's fixing her hair with her fingers, she could be really into you or something.

But before you get too excited in practicing, applying, or experimenting this powerful technique, here's a reality check:

1. Remember that this is just a technique for you to reduce or avoid anxiety while you are around her. This is designed to boost your confidence. So these visualizations that you will have are for you alone to be aware of. These aren't real in the first place. You wouldn't actually give away your imaginations by calling her Ginger or assuming that she's really into you. So be careful.

2. The above examples are just mere examples. The "Imagine that..." technique will be more effective if you apply it according to your own situation. As what Julian Foxx said, "I call it 'Imagine that...' because you have to use your imagination to come up with your own unique visualizations."

Now you have the idea, all you have to do is use it. Its really useful when you have a date or you want to approach some women you really like.

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The Preemptive Friendzone

Most guys are afraid of what we call, "the friend zone". But for the pickup artists, it isn't something to be afraid of. Take it from the pickup artist himself, Julian Foxx. Here's another one of his dating tips:

I have often heard members of The Seduction community express the idea that ending up in the 'friend zone' is sad news. Usually when I hear it mentioned in a workshop the fear becomes tangible. I'd like to permanently change how guys interpret what the 'Friend Zone' really is. It definitely isn't something you should be afraid of as long as you are the one in control of it. We're about to make friends with the 'friend zone' so hang on tight...

A while back I met a very hot redhead named Amy at a club. We really seemed to hit it off and I got what I considered to be a solid number close. Our first date was set. So the next night we met for mojitos at a little restaurant when I observed something odd; no matter what I tried there just wasn't much magic happening. Truth be told, regardless of how skilled you become, it is impossible to mesh perfectly with 100% of the ladies you date. So what now? This is where a little solid calibration comes in handy. I believe what many men would try is to 'push through' and continue attempting to create the chemistry with her until either it happens, or it doesn't and she blows you off. Sound familiar?

So there we are sitting together in a plush leathery coach and I knew I was at that very crossroads. I really did want to take her home but I was aware if I continued to escalate that the chances of her blowing me off were very substantial. So I impulsively made the decision to try something new. I unleashed what I now call the 'Preemptive Friendzone' attack. Before she had a chance to reject me outright I very warmly and sincerely friendzoned her first. The warmth and caring with which I did it was the key. The objective wasn't to make her feel bad simply to feel like I rejected her first. My goal was to actually become friends with her. Let us briefly examine some of the more obvious benefits of having a hot female friend:

A: They will become an invaluable feedback resource for you. No one is going to give better information about the finer sex and how to attract them than a lady herself!

B: She becomes your Wing. You can and should assign them the job of hooking you up with other hot girls. Sorry guys, but I'll take one of my lady friends any day of the week over the best PUA wingman.

C: There is a good probability that she will start lusting after you. As a matter of fact, it's quite likely to occur eventually. I believe the reason for this is that once we are 'just friends' with them we release a lot of the pressure on ourselves. We no longer feel that urgency to attract them or make them comfortable or do whatever it was that you were doing that wasn't working in the first place. I don't like clichés much but it actually becomes easier to just be yourself.

Now if there is one thing that a hot girl is not used to it's the guy telling her first that he just wants to be friends. She will be so confused, and every bit of it is to your advantage. The trick is to really mean it. You should not use this technique and be thinking 'gonna get her in bed later, gonna get her in bed later.The ladies aren't dumb and she will definitely notice if you are transparent. Simply let her go (at least for a little while;)as someone you are pursuing and just think about the dozens of other women she will introduce you to.

So I said to her, "First of all, I think you're very chill. And you're definitely very attractive too, I just feel like were really meant to be good buddies or something." Pay close attention to her reaction, it will almost always be poorly masked shock. And from here you will find that the transition to a new and mutually beneficial friendship is relatively simple. Providing you have some basic social skills she will most likely hang out with you again simply because you friend zoned her first and by doing so tipped the status seesaw more in your favor. Just make sure that you are not deceiving yourself here. Are you truly behaving like a buddy would when you are together or are you still 'gamin her?'

Here are a few telltale signs that indicate for me that I am really amongst friends: I burp a lot. I have lots of playful touching going on. I have no problem saying pretty offensive things. I am free to share my personal thoughts and feelings, etc... So just to sum things up: the friend zone should not ever be your goal initially. This technique is to be used when you are dealing with inevitable meltdown. That being said, you will find that cultivating hot female friends will have incredible benefits to your social life and love life as well.


Have fun,

Julian Foxx


PS: To this day Amy is still a good friend of mine somehow, even after I dated her sister;)

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Dating Women Simultaneously for Unexpected Reasons

While some guys want to date as many girls as they can, there are those who want to date the one girl for them. Would you believe if I tell you that you might find her if you date multiple girls? Here are good dating tips for guys out there who would like to find the right one for them. This article is again from Julian Foxx.

Many of you reading this right now probably need very little nudging from me to recognize many of the more obvious benefits of having a lot of girls on your radar. Despite this, it can still be very helpful to look carefully at the reasons why. And for the men out there desperately seeking 'the one' I strongly urge you to read on.

If you are going after lots of girls, one or two rejections is no big deal. If I am actively pursuing 10 girls at the same time and two of them flake I have a wonderful place to refocus my attention: 8 other lovely prospects. In fact, if you view your failures as learning experiences than you can take whatever you may have learned from the two flakes and instantly apply those lessons to subsequent interactions. In essence, failure can become exciting and fun! (Although clearly it should never be your goal)

There's an old joke that always stuck with me: How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice! Practice makes perfect. You don't come out of the womb with great seduction skills. It is comprised of many learnable skill sets and therefore takes a certain amount of dedication. The more women you are pursuing, the more opportunities you have to make connections between situations and occasionally have a revelation or two. Back when I was a wee babe I played the piano and made sure I had an hour daily to drill the scales. Now I set aside an hour or two a day to text and make phone calls to my prospects. And in the evenings I'm out with many of them 'practicing' in person. The point is, the more women you are actively pursuing, the more practice you are getting and the faster you will develop.

Building on practice is this key idea: Having multiple girls in your sights encourages you to experiment and take risks with them. I cannot overemphasize how essential this idea is. Knowing that we have 'backups' in place can fuel us to take risks that we would normally hesitate on. We can use this newfound freedom to try out new techniques. We can use it to actually go with our impulses instead of blocking them.

All of the most important discoveries and breakthroughs I've made have been a direct result of this concept. You can read about pickup and think about pickup as much as you want but if you're not actually out there taking chances with it you are not going to improve at all. And if all you're thinking about is 'your main squeeze' it's going to be impossible to apply this vital perspective.

And perhaps the most important reason for having multiple prospects is this: your behavior and your energy will change for the better without even thinking about it. If you really think about it, we are strategically placing ourselves in the same mindset that beautiful women are in. These kinds of ladies have enough guys after them that they can't even stay organized and flake by default much of the time. This is one of the reasons I purposely schedule many of my 'dates' with different women for the same evening. (A technique I discuss more in 'No Flakes') Now the situation is flipped and I am having to cancel
with them. Your aura itself is different; it is free (or freer) of any hint of desperation or neediness. The more prospects you have on your plate, the less anxiety you will experience over any one of them. And as women are typically more intuitive than men, they will most certainly pick up on this.

In other words the more women I am gaming, the better my success rate is with them. So to the man who says, "No, I just want to find the one girl for me!" I say in response: You'll have a much better chance of finding her if you're exploring multiple options, and she will probably be much more receptive to you because of the positive changes in your behavior as a result of having those options.

Have fun,

Julian Foxx

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Flirting with Your 'Bedroom Eyes'

Pick-up Artists need different ways on how to express sexual interest directly. But should also need to have an 'escape hatch' if girls calls us out on it. That was an advice from the Pickup Artist himself, Julian Foxx. Ever since I came across to his site, julianfoxx.com, I suddenly admired his style in attracting women. One of his dating tips for men is to use the common technique that he called, 'Bedroom Eyes:'

An abundance of masculine energy and sexual intensity can carry out a lot of things; it lets her know that you are A MAN and not apprehensive in showing that. In fact, it is one of the most effective actions to aloow rapid jumps towards intimacy.

So as PUA's we need various styles and tricks to express overt sexual interest but also have an 'escape hatch' if she calls us out on it.

Let's talk about a very widely used technique we utilize to convey sexual interest...'Bedroom Eyes:'

One obvious benefit about sustained 'bedroom eye' contact is it's certainly not gonna land you in the friendzone.

And I'm a strong advocate that you should go practice in front of a mirror or a good buddy. (Just try not to start kino-ing them;)

For me, 'Bedroom Eyes' feels something like this:

- My head is often cocked slightly to the side or back as if I'm examining her

- My head can be still but can also have slow sustained movement

- The lids of my eyes are easy and relaxed, not wide eyed

- I'm not afraid to hold her gaze just slightly longer than what is 'socially acceptable'

- I drink in her eyes and relish the moments when she breaks the eye contact first

- My subtext is: "You have me intrigued...if I like you enough, I will give you the best sex you've ever had...maybe..."

Now...

Even after you get really good at doing this you will almost always get called out on it by her, particularly if you are with her for an extended period of time.

Here is a brilliant counter I developed to deal with her when she does:

*What's below should all be playful, and you should really get her to do it*

Her: "You keep looking at me with this sexy stare."
You: "What are you talking about?"
Her: "Yeah, you keep looking at me...I don't know..."
You: "Ok, since I have no idea what you're talking about, can you show me what I am supposedly doing?"
Her: "I'm not sure if I can imitate it."
You: "Come onnnn, show me;) Let's see this look you SAY I'm giving you."

*she imitates*

You: "Oh my God. That might be the sexiest thing I've ever seen. Is that I how I look to you when I'm doing it? Wow. You should keep on doing that!"

She will laugh, but the laugh is not the real payoff. You have now started a game with her that you will continue throughout the interaction, periodically getting her to show you the 'look' again...

The trick is now you've got HER giving YOU bedroom eye contact too which accomplishes 3 things:

1. You've got yourselves a fun little game you can always go back to.

2. This kind of play amplifies the sexual chemistry.

3. Her imitating the face actually reinforces in her mind that she really is interested in you.


Enjoy,

Julian

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Julian Foxx is considered by many to be the fastest Rising Star in the pickup artist and dating community. His jaw dropping effectiveness with women is matched only by his ability to innovate powerful new techniques, giving their user a ridiculously unfair advantage. Check out http://www.julianfoxx.com and read Julian's controversial ideas on the Mystery VH1 show 'The Pickup Artist' at http://www.julianfoxx.com/mystery-vh1

Looks easy, huh. But let's not risk it. We might blow the whole flirting plan, practice still makes it perfect. I think I'd prefer practicing it in front of the mirror, though.

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Menstruation and Sexuality

For a fact, women's menstruation may ruin your date. But did you know that women's menstruation has something to do with their preferences with men? Here's an interesting article that explains it best:

I've always been fairly attached to my face but one certainly wouldn't describe it as overly 'masculine'. My lips are puffy and red, I don't have the square jaw line that John Cena or a typical linebacker has, my cheekbones are higher and my skin is soft and properly moisturized;) Basically I possess (along with many men) some facial characteristics that could be perceived as more 'feminine'. The significance is this: Scientific research shows that women are more attracted to the 'alpha' (that is, very masculine) facial features on a man when they are ovulating and thus more likely to conceive. Conversely, they are more attracted to the 'feminine' facial features on a man when they are menstruating and thus less likely to become pregnant. When I first discovered this I was a bit disappointed but eventually it dawned on me that I still had just as wide a window of opportunity as my more masculine faced friends did because ovulation and menstruation last for about the same amount of time. In fact, I realized I had one major advantage: although I will spend a lot more money on new bedding than Lou Ferrigno ever did, I am a lot less likely to have an unwanted pregnancy.

As intriguing as this all sounds, it is how we put this knowledge into action that makes the difference. Here are the two things you must do to harness and wield this knowledge:

1. Know thyself.

Our inherited bone structure primarily influences the shapes of our faces. Most men have one of seven facial shapes (oblong, round, triangular, square, pear-shaped, rectangular, diamond or a combination of shapes). Go check yourself in front of the mirror and be attentive to the details. Is your jawline wide and square or slimmer and perhaps more heart shaped? Are your lips narrow or pouty? Look at the line of your brow, does it hang over your eyes or is it flatter making your eyes more visible? Be honest with yourself. Decide where you fall on the continuum of facial features. It's not important where you fall. It only matters that YOU know where you fall.

2. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again in two weeks.

If you blow a chance to get laid, or fail to even get her to show up for a meeting, all is not lost. If you have stronger facial features it is very possible that your timing was a little off and she had just begun her period. (Hence she was probably with me.) Clearly the opposite scenario is just as likely to happen. The real key here is developing solid 'follow up' game. If you have the text/phone skills to keep her on the hook for the next couple of weeks you may just find success as she enters the next stage of her cycle. Let's be clear: you don't HAVE to wait two weeks after a failure to try again. You don't HAVE to exclusively target girls on their period if you look like Elijah Wood. These tools are meant to boost your awareness, tighten your calibration, and add rocket fuel to your determination. I have always been a firm believer of persistence, and now we have one more biological justification not to give up.

Have fun,

Julian Foxx

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Julian Foxx is considered by many to be the fastest Rising Star in the pickup artist and dating community. His jaw dropping effectiveness with women is matched only by his ability to innovate powerful new techniques, giving their user a ridiculously unfair advantage. Check out http://www.julianfoxx.com and read Julian's controversial ideas on the Mystery VH1 show 'The Pickup Artist' at http://www.julianfoxx.com/mystery-vh1

This is the first time that I knew of this fact and just as what the author indicated, this should not discourage us. It's just a simple addition to our knowledge.

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