The Pickup Artist Sits Like A Procurer To Avoid Anxiety

Don't you feel anxious towards a girl even just talking with her on the phone? If not entirely, there could be times when you get into an awkward topic, or that you may feel tensed or pressured in a certain moment. Some girls tend to be really dominant especially in a conversation, and this is just on the phone. That's why some guys would get intimidated by them.

So here is one of the most simple dating tips that will instantly pump up your phone game...

This technique is called: 'Sit Like A Procurer'

Yeah, you read right, but bear with me for a minute.

Just before you call a lady you may be interested in (or perhaps she's calling you), it is extremely helpful to sit down, and get into a comfortable 'Procurer-like' physical position. If you are not sure what that looks like go watch 'Hustle n' Flow' or turn on BET.

The key to finding your own personal inner Procurer is one thing:

Comfort. Physical comfort is your gauge. If you like to sit in the couch with your legs crossed, then go ahead. I personally like to lean back, stretch my legs out, and take up as much space as I want.

If you have a plush couch or comfy chair (or anything really) go ahead and give this technique a try RIGHT NOW. Maybe grab a rocks glass and try it with a drink in your hand if it helps. Practice it until you've got it.

Phase 2: Now call a girl you've been interested in, but make sure you are 'Sittin' like a Procurer.' Stay in position throughout the phone call and notice if and when you begin to reflexively change into a less comfortable position.

What you will probably find in this dating advice is that this new 'Procurer-like' physical position is going to accomplish two things:

A) It will automatically put you into a more dominant and relaxed frame. This will give you a clearer mind that will make you think of some appropriate conversational skills to use towards her.

B) It will help to relieve any excess anxiety you may be experiencing over calling her.

Remember: If you are really physically relaxed, it is a lot harder to experience emotional distress.

WARNING: Do not take this too far! The exercise is 'Sit like a Procurer' NOT 'Smack her in the face if she don't got my loot!'

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Seduction and Dating Tips - The iPod For 2 Technique

We somehow feel that awkward moment during the first few minutes of meeting our date. But of course, we eventually get the hang of it. To help get you through those occasionally awkward first few minutes of a 'date,' here is a Super simple dating advice from the pickup artist. Although it can be used at any time throughout the meeting.

Julian Foxx calls it: 'Ipod for 2'

Now this dating advice works in almost any environment and most situations.

So here's a scenario: You've just met a girl by the subway station near your house. (you got her to come to meet you right?:) It is your first 'date' and you are wearing an Ipod. You say your Hello's, and begin some playful banter.

Step 1: As you are walking along the street towards your destination, you say "Oh Wow, you have got to listen to this."

And hand her just one of the earbuds. (If you're feeling bold, go ahead and stick it in her ear for her;) The key is that the other earbud stays in your ear, preferably the one closer to her...

Step 2: Play whatever song you want. The trick is to share something with her that you genuinely enjoy listening to and are hopefully even passionate about. Just don't play U2's, "With or Without You" because that would just be lame.

In fact, to be on the safe side, stay away from anything too lovey dovey sounding.

Step 3: Just be with her as the music plays and keep heading towards your destination. (Doesn't matter if you're stationary or sitting down btw)

The benefit of this technique is twofold;

1. You are sharing something with her that has meaning to you. This sets the stage for her to share something personal back.

2. It isn't possible to share Ipod headphones and NOT be constantly touching the person you're sharing them with... The more music you play her, the more comfortable she is getting with your touch. And it is totally incidental! (How else could you both listen?)In other words, you have a legitimate and excusable reason to be that physically close to her. 'Ipod for 2' is one of the most simple yet effective dating tips for men that you can even use it anytime throughout the interaction, so don't feel obligated to try it at the very beginning.

In fact, if the date is going well it has much more potential impact when used after some initial bonding has occurred.

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Dating Advice - The 'Perfume to Her Room' Technique

Here's a super effective dating advice from Julian Foxx that we've had a lot of success with:

It is called, the 'Perfume to Her Room'

You can usually use it on a first date, but for the more advanced it can also be used immediately after opening her. Lets assume for this example that you are meeting her at a bar for a date and you've just walked in. (Because naturally you were later than her right?;)

Step 1: Establish a reason to get physically close to her. (hug, high five, doesn't matter)

Step 2: Notice her perfume.

Step 3: Say something like: "Oh my God, what is that?? That smells amazing!" Even if it stinks. You now have a legitimate reason to continue smelling her throughout the evening.

Step 4: Look for opportunities throughout the interaction to keep smelling her. You can say something like, "Man, your perfume really is great, I gotta smell that again." Don't ask for permission to smell it, you simply can't resist!

Providing you are both having a decent time this trick will allow you to smoothly transition from innocently smelling her to eventually nuzzling your face in her neck. Now at some point she will become totally conscious of what you are doing...but that's okay! Usually by the time that happens you've already created a good amount of intimacy and she is fine with it.

So you may be wondering, 'how many times over the course of a date should I actually smell her?'

As many as you like. Usually pickup artists are in the ballpark of 4-8. The important thing is not how many times, but whether or not each time is progressively becoming more intimate.

You may also be wondering, 'when is the best time to do it?'

You may save it for right after a highpoint in the interaction. (A shared laugh, a moment of meaningful eye contact, etc.) However, these dating tips can also function as a failsafe to pull out of your back pocket if you run out of things to talk about or you want to change the subject.

And finally, what happens when she says, "I'm not wearing any perfume." Simple adjustment: Do everything explained above just change the word perfume to soap or even natural scent. Ex: "Not perfume?? No way, I don't believe you. Let me check again... (you double check;) Well, you've got the best damn natural scent I've ever smelled. Wow."

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Dating Tips For Men: Improving Your Calibration

Guys usually talk about calibration. Most dating tips for men include such thing. But what does calibration REALLY mean in relation to dating?

You could open the dictionary and easily look up a dozen different definitions for the word.

But there is one in particular that the pickup artist should put in mind:

cal·i·brate [kal-uh-breyt] -verb

-to determine the correct range for (an artillery gun, mortar, etc.) by observing where the fired projectile hits.

Please read that again because it is a perfect analogy for what we are trying to accomplish in a seduction.

Every guru and their mother make reference to calibration but tend to be extremely vague when talking about how to IMPROVE IT.

There are a lot of sorts of crap, everything from "You just have to practice more" to "Calibration can't be taught, that's why naturals are naturals."

Such bullshit. If I could put a sound effect in right now it would be that annoying buzzer from Family Feud.

Of course calibration can be improved! And here's a technique that will do it. This dating advice is called:

'Imaginary Action Reversal'

In a nutshell it's quite simple...

Before you start down a risky conversational topic, send a text message, make a phone call, go in for the kiss, or any other assortment of actions you might take with a woman, it is useful to IMAGINE that whatever you are about to do...she does to you instead!

Then ask yourself:

"Did I just get MORE attracted or LESS attracted to her?"

And finally, allow your intuitive response to guide your decision whether or not to make the move.

Think about it...

Who is the best judge you have to determine if an action is 'attractive' or not?

You guessed it, it's YOU.

They say men are from Mars and woman are from Jupiter or whatever, but we sure got a lot of things in common and one of those things is definitely attraction.

Behavior that normally turns me off, usually turns a woman off. And behavior that normally turns me on, usually turns a woman on.

We are not as different as society has us believe.

So if you'd like to take your own calibration to the next level, here is a quick recap of the steps:

1. You get an impulse to say or do something that relates to her

2. You imagine HER saying or doing it to YOU

3. You pay attention to your own emotional response (to the image) and let the quality of your response determine whether or not you go through with the action.

Easy as Pie.

Practicing this exercise is simple, fun, and an amazingly effective way of developing pin-point calibration.

PS: Depending on the situation, the amount of TIME you have to use the technique is a factor. You don't want to interrupt the flow of a good conversation if you don't have to.

Just be confident that the more comfortable you become with Imaginary Action Reversal, the faster you will get, and eventually it will become something you are always subliminally aware of.

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Dating Tips: An Effective Technique From The Pickup Artist

The following dating tips are plain ol' dirty. Some men may not even find it worthy but hey, this is proven to be really effective. So its worth a post in here.

This dating advice is called, 'Yourspace IS Myspace' technique. Obviously you will have to indulge yourself into some social networking sites or online dating profiles like myspace, facebook, etc. to make this technique work.

Let's take a look at this typical seduction scenario...

Once you have been able to get her number, you will either start to text or call her, getting her on the phone. Either you text or call her, your goal is to find out specific things about her like the things she's interested to or passionate about.

Learn from these few examples that you should be after:

'She loves The Dark Knight because of Heath Ledger, she craves for a strawberry ice cream, she is into photography, etc.'

Meanwhile, as we progressively collect these information from her, we should also be simultaneously logged in to our Myspace account. What do we do then? If you guessed to quickly edit our personal details, then you got it right, we should match it to hers.

But you should not of course copy it plainly. Use more of your imagination here. For example, if she said she loves The Dark Knight movie because of Health Ledger, put in your profile that The Dark Knight is one of your favorite movies. Then add in parenthesis - (Heath Ledger made it more fantastic).

Next thing to do after gathering two or more personal information from her, accuse her of stalking into your myspace profile (remember that you should have already made the changes in your profile by this time).

You can tell her that you already think she's awesome and she don't have to pretend that she has all of those things in common with you. Naturally, she might sound surprised and deny it. Then you can reply back "okkk..." still with a tone of disbelief. When she asks for your myspace, reply something like, "I think you already know, but just for kicks its myspace.co******." She will then check on it and will be totally surprised.

You may realize at this point that you already have created an instant bonding between the two of you. So, in this technique, she did not only buy it but you will have a higher perceived status because she still have to persuade you that she was not trying to seduce you.

At some point, do acknowledge with her that there is something pretty special going on and discard first the 'playful suspicion.'

Now when you reach the point where you both get excited about the things you have in common, it is a good opportunity for you to make plans for your date. Good thing about this is that you will have various options as to what to do with her; meet in an ice cream parlor, watch a movie, etc. The point here is that you have an idea on what to do together simply because "you both love so many similar things."

I told you this technique can be considered a bit underhanded, not to mention, cheesy. But what matters is most is that it works!

You do have to make sure that your Facebook or Myspace profile settings that allow people to see when you've made updates to your profile is off. Also, it is very important that she has never really seen your profile yet.

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The Pickup Artist Knows How To Deal With Rejection

Perhaps one of the crappiest dating tips for guys is what some people call the '5 for 5.' It says that the true master pickup artist can sleep with 5 out of 5 girls he approaches. If you are not a Master pickup artist, then you'll be regarded as an AFC. Nothing in between.

That way of thinking is just plain ridiculous. Perfection in pickup DOES NOT exist. Well, perfection does not exist in this world, anyways.

Though this belief is good for business. If guys who study this stuff believe in this crap, it means more profit for those who sell products, workshops, etc. The '5 for 5' concept is just no true even if you ask a famous pickup artist.

However, what we must understand is that these workshops and products for pickup can really help us improve. A shy, unskilled guy can be transformed into an effective pickup artist if he wants to. Its just that we must not fall into this belief of perfection because there is no such thing. The '5 for f' belief can destroy those guys who train to get better. Why? Because the '5 for 5' concept is an unattainable goal for them.

To tell you the truth, the pickup artist faces rejection as well, even if he's the greatest one in the field. That's for real. If you get to sleep with 20% of the girls you pursue, you are already a great pickup artist and even on the 99th percentile of guys.

The real sign that a pickup artist is indeed a great one, is how he deals with rejection, not how little he deals with it.

There are different skill sets that composes that effectiveness of the pickup artist. Like slices of pizza, each part is relevant to your success. One of these important skills is how he is able to deal with rejection. So it is as important to practice dealing with rejection as practicing a new conversational skill or improving our energy. It is an important part of the pickup artist training to cope with rejection in a productive manner and is a vital part of the game.

It is very crucial to learn how to deal with rejection. If you deal with it poorly, rejection can be debilitating. But once you have properly harnessed it within yourself, it has the power to be our greatest teacher.

That's an important dating advice that we should always keep in mind every time a girl says 'No.'

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