Four Reasons Why Pickup Lines Fail

Maybe the most popular dating technique that the VH1 show, The Pickup Artist, has spread amongst men is the use of pickup lines. Even women have become familiar of it. I am not certain about the origin of this technique but I guess it has long existed even before David DeAngelo started to join the dating scene.

Today though, pickup lines don’t work the way it worked years ago. Here are the reasons why:

1. Because of its popularity and over exposure, women are familiar of this technique already. They could already tell when you are trying to pick them up with those lines. Thanks to Mystery and his show, The Pickup Artist.

2. Pickup lines today are mostly used by the young ones. It is regarded as a bit of an amateur dating technique. If you are 25 years of age and above and you use this technique, women might just laugh at you because most probably they have already heard your line before.

3. Pickup lines are like scripts. The thing though is, you are not an actor who is trying to shoot a movie. If you just rely on your script or your pickup lines, how will you be able to create a good conversation with women? You will never know what will happen so you cannot really create the most appropriate pickup line.

4. In dating, you should know how to keep the conversation going and interesting – and it cannot be found in your script. If you had a list of topics to talk with women, you don’t have to rub them all in during your conversation. Let them serve as your guide when you run out of topic. The important thing is that you should keep the flow of the conversation as smooth as it can be.

Today, a lot of dating techniques has been developed by dating gurus and pickup artists. The mystery method, for example, has been developed by Mystery the pickup artist. You can actually learn a whole lot of ideas and develop your own natural dating skills from pickup artists if you attend their trainings and bootcamps.

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Top Reasons Why You Should Not Date Online

Online dating is very common today. There could be millions of people who are involved in it but definitely not David DeAngelo or any other pickup artists. Some have been successful and ended up marrying each other.

I am not entirely against online dating. This article is not to discourage you but to make you realize why you should go out dating instead of doing it in front of your computer.

1. With the millions of people joining in online dating, it gives you lesser chances of being chosen by the women you send emails or messages to.

2. There is no assurance that you are indeed talking to a hot and beautiful woman. There are a lot of posers that have spread in the internet.

3. Your safety is at stake if you give out too much information on the internet. As mentioned above, there are a lot of posers nowadays and you can never tell what their true intentions are.

4. The chance of meeting your online date is very weak – unless you put much dedication to it especially if you are miles or oceans apart.

5. You will no longer have social life if you dedicate too much of your time in front of your computer – unless you consider having social life with facebook, twitter, and the likes. Since you really have to invest much time in online dating if you want to succeed in it, then your chances of spending your time outdoors is very low.

6. Did you know that one of the main reasons why there is a large percentage of obesity in the US alone is the internet? So if you don’t want to double your size, start engaging in outdoor activities to get your body moving and burn some fats. If you don’t want to burn your fats then at least don’t collect them in your body.

7. I guess the most important reason why you should go out is because you will never develop your dating skills in front of your computer. Even if you have good conversational skills online, it is no guarantee that you are as good in face-to-face conversation.

Shyness, inexperienced, or unskilled is not a reason why you should stick to online dating. You can never learn and master the mystery method or any dating techniques if you never try them. Neil Strauss was not a pickup artist. He is a known author, journalist and ghostwriter. He is a contributing editor at Rolling Stone and a regular writer for The New York Times. Then he “penetrated” the pickup artist community and became a known Pickup Artist.

So there is no reason why you should not go out and meet women. Start now and develop your skills and be one of the experts in dating.

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How to Find a Date

There are a lot of ways on how to find a date. The most effective is in a social gathering where there are many women. You may have seen Neil Strauss and other pickup artists doing their stunts at nightclubs. But for those who are not too skilled in dating, it could really be hard to approach women in such occasions. Well, as I've said, there are a lot of ways...

Perhaps you have heard of speed dating. It is called speed dating because you get to date 20-30 dates in just an hour. Wow, honestly I cannot imagine dating 20 women in just an hour. But in speed dating, it is possible. Sounds interesting huh?

Speed dating is not your ordinary idea of dating. It is not the kind of dating that David DeAngelo would recommend, I suppose. It is actually a service offered by some companies. Basically, a number of women are grouped together and each of them has cards that represent the men. On the other hand, men are assigned a place and they also have the numbers that represent the women.

Any man can start with any woman. For example, man number twelve can start with woman number 1 or 2. Then each couple is given five to ten minutes to talk. It depends on the company’s procedure but it usually ranges from four minutes to ten minutes. During that time, each couple can talk just about anything - interests, sports, sex, movies, etc. When the time is up, each man and woman will mark their partner's number with a 'yes' or a 'no'. Yes means that you are interested with him/her and if you both marked a yes to each other, you will get his/her contact details in a few days.

After you are done with your first partner, you then go to the next one. This process repeats until you have seen every woman during the event.

Speed dating is ideal for men who are shy and have problems in approaching women. In this event, you do not need to use the mystery method or worry on how you will approach them. You can start with a “Hi” then introduce yourself and get on with the conversation. Another good thing about speed dating is that you get to meet several women. You do not just meet them casually but you really have the chance to talk with them. If you don't succeed with speed dating, then I think it’s about time you have to learn some dating skills.

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Signs That She is Flirting With You

If you are a pickup artist, you will not have a hard time looking for dates. In fact, women will be the ones looking for you. But what if you are not a pickup artist? What if you are no way near the dating skills of David DeAngelo? Do you think women will ever be interested in you? Will you ever get a date?

The answer to the above questions is yes. If you are going out, attending a party or any social gathering, you cannot avoid to mingle with other people unless you really intend to. These social gatherings are a good opportunity to meet women and find a date. If you have no idea what the mystery method is, no need to worry because you can find a date without it. Just make sure that you look good enough and wear enough self-confidence. Mingle with people and spot for girls who shows some sign that they are flirting with you or that they like you.

How they do that? Here are some signs:

1. She winks at you at a distance or even while talking to you.

2. She is playing with her hair while looking at you.

3. She bites her lips, shows her tongue, or licks her lips.

4. She puts her fingernail in between her teeth.

5. She touches your hand, shoulder, or thigh while talking to you.

6. Among other guests or people around the place, she talks to you only and gives all her attention to no one but you.

7. She crosses her legs and points it towards you; while her legs are crossed, she rocks it back and forth towards you. (But make sure she also looks at you from time to time or you might just misinterpret her.)

8. She looks at you with deep interest while her pupils are dilated.

9. Perhaps the most obvious is when she blushes when you're around.

Social gatherings gives you more chances of getting a date because of the number of people present. If you don't have good dating skills, and you don't have time to delve in on how Neil Strauss penetrated the secret society of Pickup Artists, it would be an advantage if you can tell that a woman is flirting with you. It'll be much easier to approach her knowing that she's into you.

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Dating Tips For Men: How to Impress a Woman

One particular thing that is common amongst men is their effort to impress a woman. You would often hear women complain about how their boyfriends or their husbands have changed over time. It is because men tend to impress them on their first meeting, on their first date, or during the early stage of their relationship. Unlike Neil Strauss or any other pickup artists, average men would try to “behave” during this stage because they want to attract a woman by creating a good impression to them.

In meeting women, or even just trying to catch their attention, men would do unusual things, be very generous, extra kind and sweet, etc. just to impress them: They would only say things that they think would impress her; they tend to get formal during a conversation, and; they avoid teasing her or do anything that they think would upset her. 

These things actually make you become unnatural. Sometimes, in trying to avoid screwing things up on your first meeting, being unnatural can, in fact, screw it all up. We cannot really avoid it most of the times because we want to attract women. But haven’t you wondered why it does not usually work? Women may be impressed but they don’t get attracted to you.

You may have learned about the mystery method and other dating techniques from pickup artists. But the best way to impress a woman is by being natural. Forget about trying to impress her. Make her feel emotionally attracted to you. Do not memorize any scripts or pickup lines. Relax, be confident, and enjoy her company.

Make her feel comfortable when talking to you. Don’t be afraid to tease her but do it gently. Humor hasn’t backfired in attracting women yet, so keep it going. You may try the cocky & funny technique by David DeAngelo. But you need to be really good at it for it to work effectively.

Each man has their own unique qualities that will attract women. If you try to be someone you’re not, it won’t be too attractive for her. If you want to learn some dating skills, you need to practice first until it becomes natural in you. Remember, don’t try hard to look or sound cool in front of her. It’s usually obvious when men do that.

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