Dating Tips For Men

Four Reasons Why Pickup Lines Fail

2010-05-15T02:53:00.000-07:00

Maybe the most popular dating technique that the VH1 show, The Pickup Artist, has spread amongst men is the use of pickup lines. Even women have become familiar of it. I am not certain about the origin of this technique but I guess it has long existed even before David DeAngelo started to join the dating scene.

Today though, pickup lines don’t work the way it worked years ago. Here are the reasons why:

1. Because of its popularity and over exposure, women are familiar of this technique already. They could already tell when you are trying to pick them up with those lines. Thanks to Mystery and his show, The Pickup Artist.

2. Pickup lines today are mostly used by the young ones. It is regarded as a bit of an amateur dating technique. If you are 25 years of age and above and you use this technique, women might just laugh at you because most probably they have already heard your line before.

3. Pickup lines are like scripts. The thing though is, you are not an actor who is trying to shoot a movie. If you just rely on your script or your pickup lines, how will you be able to create a good conversation with women? You will never know what will happen so you cannot really create the most appropriate pickup line.

4. In dating, you should know how to keep the conversation going and interesting – and it cannot be found in your script. If you had a list of topics to talk with women, you don’t have to rub them all in during your conversation. Let them serve as your guide when you run out of topic. The important thing is that you should keep the flow of the conversation as smooth as it can be.

Today, a lot of dating techniques has been developed by dating gurus and pickup artists. The mystery method, for example, has been developed by Mystery the pickup artist. You can actually learn a whole lot of ideas and develop your own natural dating skills from pickup artists if you attend their trainings and bootcamps.

Top Reasons Why You Should Not Date Online

2010-05-08T09:33:00.000-07:00

Online dating is very common today. There could be millions of people who are involved in it but definitely not David DeAngelo or any other pickup artists. Some have been successful and ended up marrying each other.

I am not entirely against online dating. This article is not to discourage you but to make you realize why you should go out dating instead of doing it in front of your computer.

1. With the millions of people joining in online dating, it gives you lesser chances of being chosen by the women you send emails or messages to.

2. There is no assurance that you are indeed talking to a hot and beautiful woman. There are a lot of posers that have spread in the internet.

3. Your safety is at stake if you give out too much information on the internet. As mentioned above, there are a lot of posers nowadays and you can never tell what their true intentions are.

4. The chance of meeting your online date is very weak – unless you put much dedication to it especially if you are miles or oceans apart.

5. You will no longer have social life if you dedicate too much of your time in front of your computer – unless you consider having social life with facebook, twitter, and the likes. Since you really have to invest much time in online dating if you want to succeed in it, then your chances of spending your time outdoors is very low.

6. Did you know that one of the main reasons why there is a large percentage of obesity in the US alone is the internet? So if you don’t want to double your size, start engaging in outdoor activities to get your body moving and burn some fats. If you don’t want to burn your fats then at least don’t collect them in your body.

7. I guess the most important reason why you should go out is because you will never develop your dating skills in front of your computer. Even if you have good conversational skills online, it is no guarantee that you are as good in face-to-face conversation.

Shyness, inexperienced, or unskilled is not a reason why you should stick to online dating. You can never learn and master the mystery method or any dating techniques if you never try them. Neil Strauss was not a pickup artist. He is a known author, journalist and ghostwriter. He is a contributing editor at Rolling Stone and a regular writer for The New York Times. Then he “penetrated” the pickup artist community and became a known Pickup Artist.

So there is no reason why you should not go out and meet women. Start now and develop your skills and be one of the experts in dating.

How to Find a Date

2010-04-30T05:56:00.000-07:00

There are a lot of ways on how to find a date. The most effective is in a social gathering where there are many women. You may have seen Neil Strauss and other pickup artists doing their stunts at nightclubs. But for those who are not too skilled in dating, it could really be hard to approach women in such occasions. Well, as I've said, there are a lot of ways...

Perhaps you have heard of speed dating. It is called speed dating because you get to date 20-30 dates in just an hour. Wow, honestly I cannot imagine dating 20 women in just an hour. But in speed dating, it is possible. Sounds interesting huh?

Speed dating is not your ordinary idea of dating. It is not the kind of dating that David DeAngelo would recommend, I suppose. It is actually a service offered by some companies. Basically, a number of women are grouped together and each of them has cards that represent the men. On the other hand, men are assigned a place and they also have the numbers that represent the women.

Any man can start with any woman. For example, man number twelve can start with woman number 1 or 2. Then each couple is given five to ten minutes to talk. It depends on the company’s procedure but it usually ranges from four minutes to ten minutes. During that time, each couple can talk just about anything - interests, sports, sex, movies, etc. When the time is up, each man and woman will mark their partner's number with a 'yes' or a 'no'. Yes means that you are interested with him/her and if you both marked a yes to each other, you will get his/her contact details in a few days.

After you are done with your first partner, you then go to the next one. This process repeats until you have seen every woman during the event.

Speed dating is ideal for men who are shy and have problems in approaching women. In this event, you do not need to use the mystery method or worry on how you will approach them. You can start with a “Hi” then introduce yourself and get on with the conversation. Another good thing about speed dating is that you get to meet several women. You do not just meet them casually but you really have the chance to talk with them. If you don't succeed with speed dating, then I think it’s about time you have to learn some dating skills.

Signs That She is Flirting With You

2010-04-26T22:23:00.000-07:00

If you are a pickup artist, you will not have a hard time looking for dates. In fact, women will be the ones looking for you. But what if you are not a pickup artist? What if you are no way near the dating skills of David DeAngelo? Do you think women will ever be interested in you? Will you ever get a date?

The answer to the above questions is yes. If you are going out, attending a party or any social gathering, you cannot avoid to mingle with other people unless you really intend to. These social gatherings are a good opportunity to meet women and find a date. If you have no idea what the mystery method is, no need to worry because you can find a date without it. Just make sure that you look good enough and wear enough self-confidence. Mingle with people and spot for girls who shows some sign that they are flirting with you or that they like you.

How they do that? Here are some signs:

1. She winks at you at a distance or even while talking to you.

2. She is playing with her hair while looking at you.

3. She bites her lips, shows her tongue, or licks her lips.

4. She puts her fingernail in between her teeth.

5. She touches your hand, shoulder, or thigh while talking to you.

6. Among other guests or people around the place, she talks to you only and gives all her attention to no one but you.

7. She crosses her legs and points it towards you; while her legs are crossed, she rocks it back and forth towards you. (But make sure she also looks at you from time to time or you might just misinterpret her.)

8. She looks at you with deep interest while her pupils are dilated.

9. Perhaps the most obvious is when she blushes when you're around.

Social gatherings gives you more chances of getting a date because of the number of people present. If you don't have good dating skills, and you don't have time to delve in on how Neil Strauss penetrated the secret society of Pickup Artists, it would be an advantage if you can tell that a woman is flirting with you. It'll be much easier to approach her knowing that she's into you.

Dating Tips For Men: How to Impress a Woman

2010-04-19T07:47:00.000-07:00

One particular thing that is common amongst men is their effort to impress a woman. You would often hear women complain about how their boyfriends or their husbands have changed over time. It is because men tend to impress them on their first meeting, on their first date, or during the early stage of their relationship. Unlike Neil Strauss or any other pickup artists, average men would try to “behave” during this stage because they want to attract a woman by creating a good impression to them.

In meeting women, or even just trying to catch their attention, men would do unusual things, be very generous, extra kind and sweet, etc. just to impress them: They would only say things that they think would impress her; they tend to get formal during a conversation, and; they avoid teasing her or do anything that they think would upset her.

These things actually make you become unnatural. Sometimes, in trying to avoid screwing things up on your first meeting, being unnatural can, in fact, screw it all up. We cannot really avoid it most of the times because we want to attract women. But haven’t you wondered why it does not usually work? Women may be impressed but they don’t get attracted to you.

You may have learned about the mystery method and other dating techniques from pickup artists. But the best way to impress a woman is by being natural. Forget about trying to impress her. Make her feel emotionally attracted to you. Do not memorize any scripts or pickup lines. Relax, be confident, and enjoy her company.

Make her feel comfortable when talking to you. Don’t be afraid to tease her but do it gently. Humor hasn’t backfired in attracting women yet, so keep it going. You may try the cocky & funny technique by David DeAngelo. But you need to be really good at it for it to work effectively.

Each man has their own unique qualities that will attract women. If you try to be someone you’re not, it won’t be too attractive for her. If you want to learn some dating skills, you need to practice first until it becomes natural in you. Remember, don’t try hard to look or sound cool in front of her. It’s usually obvious when men do that.

3 Things Men Need To Develop To Attract Women

2010-04-14T00:53:00.000-07:00

It is no secret that majority of men (if not all) gets nervous when asking a woman out for a date. Approaching women even scares the hell out of most of us. Honestly, one of the reasons behind this is our fear of rejection. It would be such a shame if we get rejected. But rejection is something that we cannot avoid. Even David DeAngelo, an expert in dating, cannot avoid rejection.

Not all of us may want to be a pickup artist or use any of their techniques like the mystery method, but let’s admit it, these pickup artists have the skills that most of us wishes to have.

If you don’t want to be a pickup artist but you want to learn how to attract women, consider these three tips:

Confidence – Develop your self-confidence, it will be your best asset. Women get more attracted to confident men that those who are not. But don’t be over-confident as it may destroy you. Nobody likes an arrogant being. The best thing to do is to stay calm and relax to avoid nervousness. If she feels that you are nervous, she will think that you lack confidence and that will not attract her.

Listening Skills – Good communication is how you should play it. Most dating tips would advise you to think of interesting topics or give you some script. But the key to a good communication is listening. If you listen to what she has to say, it wouldn’t be too difficult to think on what to say next. In fact, your conversation might go smoothly.

Good Grooming – Physical appearance also matters to women. They may not really be looking for handsome or hot men, but what they look in your physical appearance is overall cleanliness. You don’t need to dress like Mystery the Pickup Artist. Just make sure you have taken a bath, shaved, cleaned your shoes, ironed your clothes, etc.

If you don’t want to attend a bootcamp, seminars, or pickup trainings, just develop more confidence, practice your listening skills, and get yourself well-groomed. It will all be enough to start attracting women.

How To Flirt With Women

2010-04-05T09:15:00.000-07:00

It looks very easy for women to flirt with men. Maybe because men are easy to please and tempt. They can use their beauty and some "assets" to easily seduce men. Most of the time, they can naturally be flirts even if they don't mean to. While for men, even approaching women gives us an adrenaline rush.

If that is the case, dating can be harder compared to women. So men should learn how to flirt, too. Its not like showing some skin like women do. They can't be seduced in that way. The mystery method and other dating techniques might do but a little flirting will be easier and more fun. You do not have to follow the footsteps of David DeAngelo or "Penetrate the Secret Society of the Pickup Artists" like what Neil Strauss did.

Every man is capable of flirting in their own way. Sometimes, if they like a woman, they'd be a little show-off or they would act in an unusual way - either a bit shier or more hyped. But doing it the right way can be useful in winning her.

Some guys' flirting skills come out only when texting or when interacting online. But when put face-to-face, they become shy. These men will be outplayed by those who are more confident and up-front. If you get too flirtatious over text and not so much in real life, it will be a problem once you both start to go out on a real date.

In flirting, confidence is your best asset. If you think you do not have that, don't worry, it can be developed. Learn how to be confident and practice more often so that it would come out naturally when you attempt to flirt with someone.

Be very careful when you try to flirt. You should do it right or else it will be over. Giving too much of a complement to a woman might make her feel awkward. Timing is important. Also, play a little hard to get. It is more fun and it will make her want you more.

The Skills To Develop In Pickup and Seduction

2010-03-27T05:03:00.000-07:00

In dating, physical appearance and intelligence is not the ultimate asset of men. If you notice, when you were in school, hot girls don’t date those intelligent guys. You will see them going out with the bullies, athletes, the naughty ones, but not with the genius guys. Take note that we are using the word, “intelligent” here instead of “smart”. There’s a heck of a difference between the two and I am not going to delve deeper into differentiating them.

Moving on, these intelligent guys may seem to be the ideal type for most women. Yet, the hot ladies end up going out with the “skilled” ones. I’m referring to guys who have skills when it comes to women. Mystery the pickup artist doesn’t look like any woman’s ideal man. But he founded the mystery method which is very effective in pickup and seduction. Now see how successful he is when it comes to dating women.

Most of these intelligent men lack is social skill. Some guys may have all the qualities – smart, good looking, clean and tidy – but if they lack the skills, those qualities will be useless in dating. Doesn’t David DeAngelo look exactly what I have described? But David D. has already gone past that stage and is now a dating expert. We may live in a modern society but old practices don’t die – men are still expected to do the first move. That is why social skill is a very important factor in pickup.

Being intelligent is a good quality but it isn’t enough. It is definitely a good quality but couple it with social skills and you’ll be a total catch for women. Nobody wants to talk to a walking dictionary and nobody wants to go out with a boring person.

Social skill per se is a broad term. There are a lot of things to learn if you want to be an expert in dating: Confidence, dating etiquettes, openers, personal development, and the likes. But once you get the hang of these all, it will all be worth it.

The Mystery Method Discussed

2010-03-22T03:32:00.000-07:00

The Mystery Method is one of the most popular dating techniques today. It is developed by none other than Mystery. His book, "The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed" was written in 2007. Since then, it has become very popular that every man interested in pickup is using the technique.

The mystery method is not just a simple dating technique. It is composed of several phases: Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction. Each of these phases are divided into 3 parts:

Attraction:

Approach

Attracting the HB or female-to-male interest

Male-to-female interest

Comfort:

Building rapport

Building emotional connection and physical connection

Intimacy

Seduction:

Foreplay

LMR

Sex

Each of these parts are divided into different approaches. Looks complicated? The mystery method is not that difficult as you think. But you have to be serious and eager to learn and succeed in it.

Now, because of its popularity, even women are aware of the mystery method already. Most men think that it is overused now and that it won't be as effective as before. There is no doubt to Mystery's skills as a pickup artist. It has been tested and proven. So it would really be nice to get something new from him.

More men prefer to learn other techniques in dating now that the mystery method is getting more publicity. Men are now shifting their attention to other pickup artists. These PUAs has developed their own pickup techniques as well.

The Cocky & Funny technique by David DeAngelo has been widely used also. Being cocky & funny works well if you use it correctly - not too cocky and not too funny. Julian Foxx and Vin DiCarlo developed a technique on Phone Game. Simple yet very effective.

These techniques by other pickup artists are also very helpful in dating. Their only difference with the Mystery Method is popularity. Mystery had a tv show with VH1, so there is no question on how the Mystery Method got more popular than other pickup techniques.

In learning pickup and seduction, you just have to be serious in it. It is not just about learning the techniques in women but it is more on improving yourself.

How To Look Good To Attract Women

2010-03-16T07:15:00.000-07:00

Men get easily attracted to beautiful and sexy women. But it doesn’t work that way for them. They get more attracted to your personality rather than your face and figure (though it would be an added bonus for them if you look good). Take a look at David DeAngelo. He doesn’t look like a pickup artist but he’s an expert in dating.

Although the truth is, appearance of men also matters for women in a somehow different way. If the first thing you check on a woman is her face or breasts, women would check on little but important details like your tidiness. It would be a total turn-off if they see that your fingernails are dirty. Women check out our looks in a different way.

Usually, being cocky & funny isn’t enough in attracting women. If you think you have succeeded on attracting a woman by that technique of David DeAngelo, do not be too confident yet. Once she sees your dirty shoes or even your lousy attire, she would easily get turned-off.

Pickup and seduction is not just about dating techniques, you should take care of yourself, too. If there is anything about your physical appearance that isn’t attractive, or might put women off, do something about it. If you feel that you don’t have a sense of fashion, try searching for what’s IN for men right now. Observe how other men choose their outfit. If you have a bad breath, try to get rid of it. Even just taking care of your hygiene would help a lot on improving your physical appearance.

You don’t need to spend much in taking care of yourself, especially your hygiene. It is actually one of the dating techniques used by other men and maybe even some pickup artists. It will not also take much of your time to make yourself look clean like shaving, brushing your teeth, polishing your shoes, and stuffs like that. Try to find that article from the pickup artist, Julian Foxx, about taking care of your hygiene. It is where I have learned the importance of our hygiene. They were just simple tips but they can create a great impact on women.

So aside from learning dating techniques, you should also start learning on how to make yourself look good at least by being neat and clean. The mystery method and other dating techniques can be effective in attracting ladies, but it would be more effective if you make yourself look good and presentable.

Overcome Shyness When Approaching Women

2010-03-09T05:49:00.000-08:00

Shyness is one of men's greatest weaknesses when it comes to women. Well, maybe except for David DeAngelo or other pickup artists who are already experts in dating with women. This is the reason why some men find it hard to approach a woman.

There is actually a reason towards this attitude of men. First, we are afraid of rejection. What comes into our mind if we get rejected is the shame. Second, we are afraid of how the girl will react. "Will she ignore me?," or "She might just laugh at me" is what we usually expect. Third, we are afraid that we might say the wrong thing to her. There could be other possible reasons aside from these three but one thing common is that they're all negative thinking.

All of these shyness problems root our negative thinking. When we plan to approach a We woman, we think of countless negative possibilities. That is why we get nervous, hesitant to approach them, and most often, we backout.

Have you thought how Mystery and other pickup artists have an oozing self confidence? Truth is, most of these pickup artists and dating experts doesn't know how to approach women as well. They just learned how to overcome shyness and gain self-confidence.

So for us, we should not just accept the fact that we cannot date any woman because we are naturally shy. No, we are shy because we think it that way. If David DeAngelo have learned to overcome shyness, so we can, too.

Here are simple tips on how to overcome your shyness:

1. Think positively. We've already identified the root of our shyness towards girls and that is negative thinking. So we must not entertain these negative thoughts.

2. Just because you like this beautiful and hot girl, doesn't mean you can't have her. Put this in mind: physical appearance may be very important for us, but it doesn't work that way for women. They are more attracted with a man's personality rather than physical appearance alone.

3. Practice. Approach some women you like in just a friendly and casual manner. Just choose the woman that you like less and are shy to approach.

4. Take the risk. If you don't try to do it, you'll never succeed and will remain shy with women. Unless you like it that way, you should start gaining more confidence and be more positive about yourself.

It will be a long process but imagine being like the pickup artist who is confident and can date any woman he likes. It will be very rewarding to overcome your shyness

Pickup Artists Are Not Born Experts

2010-03-03T03:08:00.000-08:00

A very common problem for men is their failure at women. Men dream of going out with the woman they love, like, admire, or just simply with a beautiful lady they want to meet. If you happen to be familiar with the seduction community, you may envy the dating experts David DeAngelo, Mystery, Julian Foxx, or Neil Strauss for their skills in attracting women. Well, envy no more because most of these pickup artists were also one of us who couldn't get a woman to date with. In short, they were not born to be experts in women like us.

Let's talk about Neil Strauss a.k.a. Style. He authored the New York Times Bestseller, "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick-up Artists." The book tells about his experience in entering the pickup artist community.

The book maybe about pickup but Neil Strauss was not born a pickup artist nor an expert in dating. Although he is now considered to be a famous pickup artist, Neil Strauss is actually an American author - a contributing editor at Rolling Stone and he also writes for The New York Times.

Just like David DeAngelo, Neil Strauss was also one of the guys who couldn't get any girls to date with. So when he came across the seduction community, he started to join online discussion groups. As he got more involved, Neil Strauss attended Mystery's bootcamp. The bootcamp is what helped Style become a pickup artist. He learned different advice and techniques on how to approach a woman, how to respond in certain situations, and most especially how to be a real pickup artist.

All of these experiences in his journey in becoming a pickup artist were written in his book, "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick-up Artists." From then on, he became one of the famous pickup artists in the community.

See, the famous Neil Strauss was once a failure in dating with women but he managed to become a pickup artist. You may not dream of becoming a famous pickup artist like him but you can be an expert in dating with women.

You may start by joining online communities, read and participate on discussions about pickup and seduction. That way, you will become more familiar about dating and pickup. PUAs usually give out free dating tips in their newsletters, so subscribe to them. When you're ready, attending trainings, seminars, or a bootcamp will be more helpful.

Now that we know how these famous dating experts became who they are now, there is no reason to envy them. Instead, we should be more encouraged to develop our own skills and be an expert with women, too.

Dating Tips For Men: Learning The Art of Pickup

2010-02-26T01:30:00.000-08:00

If you have seen the vh1 show, The Pickup Artist, you will have an idea about what pickup is all about. The reality show is composed of male contestants who have been unsuccessful when it comes to dating with women. On the show, they were taught by Mystery and his guys about the art of pickup.

Off-screen, pickup is a bit different. There may be competition among men, but they are not on a contest. Men who are involved in pickup are mostly pickup artists. They are already skilled in dating with women. Some of them were also unsuccessful with girls but managed to learn how to pickup women and became an expert on it.

The pickup artist community is not only for skilled men. Those who were unsuccessful with girls are already joining the community by trying to improve themselves. Pickup is not just about using the cocky and funny technique by David DeAngelo, the mystery method, or any techniques thereof. Sure you can use them but there are a lot of things that you should know and master before you can pickup girls easily. You don't have to join the reality tv show, The Pickup Artist, just to learn the art of pickup. Today, there are a lot of ways on how to do it:

1. Seminars. By attending seminars and conventions, you will gain more knowledge about pickup. The more ideas you have about the pickup community subculture, the more you will be prepared. I would suggest going to conventions or seminars attended by pickup artists themselves and not just gurus or teachers. Pickup artists usually share infield footage, experience, and their own techniques in dating women.

2. Bootcamps. A lot of pickup artists organize a bootcamp. Here, you will get proper training in pickup. You will also get a chance to see them pickup random women in any location. This is a good opportunity to see how they do the pickup and learn from it. Plus, you also get to do it yourself - practice what you have learned.

3. Workshops. Pickup artists offers workshops or trainings. There is nothing more advantageous than being trained by a pickup artist. These workshops are not only about how to's with women but also improving yourself.

4. Online. The internet is where you can get a lot of ideas, articles, opinions, facts, live footages, and just about everything about the art of pickup. There are e-books available from gurus like David DeAngelo. You may also subscribe to pickup artists' newsletter to get updated by them. These newsletters are full of tips from pickup artists so they're quite helpful.

You may have heard a lot of things about the art of pickup. Often, pickup artists talk about how they could easily approach a woman and end up going to bed with them. Perhaps that is what attracts most men in the art of pickup.

How Pickup Artists Became Experts in Dating

2010-02-22T02:24:00.000-08:00

With the advent of technology, many have become a couch potato at an early age which is one of the reasons why they become shy and are not active with their social life. There are a lot of men who are lousy with girls especially those who we call, nerds. Women don't even notice them around because they seem to have their own world.

When the pickup artist or the seduction community was born in the early nineties, these "nerds" or just the shy ones have been given the chance to be an expert when it comes to girls. A lot of these men has been unbelievably transformed into a chic magnet. David DeAngelo himself claims that he failed on girls as well before he learned about the art of pickup.

When Vh1 launched The Pickup Artist show with Mystery, the community has been more popularized and more men became involved. Today, men whom girls thought were lousy, nerd, weird, and some they haven't even recognized, have now evolved into some girls' magnet. At first, I thought it was exaggerated. I know that people can develop their confidence, but to turn some nerd or weirdo into a chic magnet is another story. But when I started to search for more information about it, I have seen how it could all be possible. I have also read some reviews about the Double Your Dating ebook by David DeAngelo and I guess that must really be a good read. Though I'd prefer attending bootcamps or seminars rather than reading an e-book.

With the help of master pickup artists, men can really develop their dating skills. I have watched a convention attended by Julian Foxx and other PUAs. I admit I was impressed with their crafts. There are a lot of things that we have taken for granted and never took notice of it. Men need to understand a lot of things to know how to get a girl for a date. If you do not know how menstruation affects the girls' preference for men, then you gotta ask Julian Foxx about it.

I guess these things that PUAs teach are not only for men who wants to be like them. These are also for men who are looking for a long-term relationship and wants to improve themselves. By gaining more trust and self-confidence, they can have the courage to approach girls and the skills to attract them.

The Pickup Artist Scenarios in a Nightclub

2010-02-17T01:55:00.000-08:00

With the popularity of the pickup artist community today, picking up girls has been very apparent. Nightclubs and bars are the very common places where men think they can find women to date and eventually sleep with.

When you say pickup, most men expect or at least hope to end up "sleeping" with their dates. That could also be the reason why some men got interested into pickup. Looking at the pickup artists who pickup hot women anytime and anywhere are really envious especially if they brag about getting in bed with them.

The problem with this approach is that women are being suspicious with your intentions. Worse, they already know some approaches like the Cocky & Funny from David DeAngelo. So obviously, it won't work anymore unless you're good enough to keep her suspicions away.

Here are the six simple approaches on how to pickup girls at the nightclub:

1. Do not think about pickup. Do not think that your goal is to pickup women. It will only give you more pressure. Real pickup artists are skilled enough to do the pickup strategies. Just stay cool and think of enjoying the night with friends and "new friends."

2. Mingle with others. Going to nightclubs and bars is part of your social life so socialize with others. The best approach to pickup a woman is not to think about picking her up at all. Approach her normally, and start a little chit chat.

3. Avoid using pickup lines. Most dating techniques are too public nowadays that women are already familiar with the usual pickup lines. IF you have memorized some "openers" from Mystery, forget about them. Some may work but its better not to risk and lose your opportunity with a woman.

4. Eye contact. It is one of the most effective way to flirt. Maintain eye contact to let her know that its her you're looking at. But you should be very careful in communicating with her through eye contact. Do not stare as if you're checking her from head to toe. Just flirt a little and see if she responds positively.

5. Approach her in your most natural way. Not because its the most effective but because its what you're comfortable at. If you use some techniques you just heard from someone, chance is you'll get nervous, get blank, or simply flop.

6. Do not be afraid of rejection. Even the famous David DeAngelo gets rejected, too.

Don't be too overwhelmed with pickup. The pickup artist community may have introduced a lot of dating techniques but not all will work for you. Its all about improving yourself, understanding women, and developing your skills. The most important thing in pickup is to be natural.

How To Pickup Women on Valentine's Day

2010-02-12T05:59:00.000-08:00

Its February, the love month, as people call it. Few days from now, it will be Valentine's Day. It would be such a shame (at least for some) if you don't have a date. Almost everyone is excited for the that day to come. So it got me thinking... How does someone like Mystery celeberate Valentine's Day? Or do they even celebrate it? It seems like they can have a valentine's day anytime they want to. They'd just throw in some pickup lines then instantly date some hot chick and go to bed with them if they get too lucky.

Since the Valentine fever is hot right now, I thought I'd do some research on how to pickup a woman for valentine's day. I found nothing fresh from David DeAngelo, still the same old cocky and funny thing. So, I just went on reading some usual tips which were just stated in different ways. Here are different ways on how to get a date on Valentine's Day:

1. If you have some prospects of whom to date on the 14th, start contacting her now. Since we're talking about the pickup artist way of celebrating Valentine's Day, don't ASK her to be your date on that day. If its both your first time together, you can invite her out for tonight but not to date.

2. Let's say you don't have someone in mind to date on the big day. Get your phone and look for some numbers of hot women (I assume you have at least 10 of them stored on your phone) you've met before. Start texting them but don't get obvious with your plans. Just a casual text will do.

3. If you don't have a particular date on the 14th, go to a party. This sounds more fun! Surely there will be a lot of Valentine's Day events and it means there'll be lots of parties around full of hot single ladies.

Those ideas will be most effective if you know how to socialize with women and converse with them in the right way. Don't try to be some romantic guy and never let her feel that you are dying to date her. The cocky and funny technique by David DeAngelo might work. Its year 2010 already and gone were the days when guys have to feed women with gifts.

If you don't know what I'm talking about, then its time you get to learn some skills. There are pickup artists who would be willing to help you. You can attend seminars, trainings, or bootcamps. For starters, you may subscribe to their newsletter for free.

A Peek Into the Pickup Artist Community

2010-02-03T23:45:00.000-08:00

With the growing popularity of the seduction community or what most people call, the pickup artist community, more men are eager to improve themselves and learn the techniques of the pickup artist. Today, there are a lot of dating experts and PUAs who help other men in dating and pickup. But it was not Mystery nor David DeAngelo who pioneered in the seduction community. It actually originated from Ross Jeffries.

Jeffries is a former comedy writer. He created the "Speed Seduction," a Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) technique. David DeAngelo, the famous PUA and guru, was actually a student of Ross Jeffries, who was also the pickup mentor of Neil Strauss in his bestselling book, "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists".

As the seduction community was growing, each pickup artist or guru developed their own techniques. There's the "Mystery Method" by Mystery and "Cocky & Funny" by David DeAngelo. Accronyms, terminologies and jargons in the community has also been created. For example, AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) is what they call to males who are incompetent with women.

With its rapid growth, the seduction community has also received negative feedback and comments. It has been characterized in the San Francisco Chronicle to be "a puerile cult of sexual conquest." Feminists also reacted negatively to the whole pickup thing and think that it is offensive.

Despite the criticisms, the seduction community is still growing and becoming popular. In 2007, VH1 started the reality show, "The Pickup Artist," with Mystery and other PUAs on it. It has even raised more awareness about the community and attracted more men to join in.

Pickup materials have also spread most especially in the internet. E-books, DVDs, CDs, trainings, seminars, bootcamps, and workshops. Online communities were formed where men share their experiences, learn from others, discuss about pickup and seduction, or sometimes boast around.

Although there can be a lot of things to be criticized in the seduction community, fact still remains that it has helped a lot of men especially the "AFCs". It has helped them develop social skills and gain self-confidence.

The things that the pickup artists and gurus teach to men may be too advanced and can be seen as offensive for women. But it all depends on how men use it. Some men's goal is just to gain confidence and how to deal with women in dating. Pickup is not just for playing around, it can also be for men who seek a serious relationship.

The Experts of The Pickup Artist Community

2010-01-28T22:33:00.000-08:00

The pickup artist community is now very popular. Thanks to that reality show from VH1. The community is such a great help for men who never imagined themselves in the dating scene. It has given hope to men and encouraged them to start developing their dating skills.

The community has dating experts and pickup artists who help other men to get out and start improving themselves. One of the top gurus is David DeAngelo. The Cocky and Funny technique originated from him. His e-book, Double Your Dating has also received a lot of good reviews.

The Pickup Artist, Mystery, has popularized the mystery method which is widely used in dating today. Though many says that it is already an over used technique and that girls are more aware of it now. Peacocking is also a technique from Mystery wherein you wear an attention-grabbing outfit. If you do not know what it means, just look at how Mystery dresses himself.

Neil Strauss is an American author but he has been popular in the pickup artist community as well. He wrote the book, 'The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists'. He signed in to one of Mystery's bootcamps and that is how he penetrated the pickup artist society. He was also named as the "No. 1 Pickup Artist" after his book hit the market. A big question about Neil Strauss though is that why he refused the pickup challenge with Julian Foxx? He may have a thousand reasons but why pass it on to Mystery? Well, Neil Strauss rarely have live pickup videos.

Dubbed as the "fastest rising star" in the pickup community is Julian Foxx. He has a live video footage of him winning over Mystery in a pickup challenge. The video received different insights from people. Some say that it was a setup for Mystery, while others say that whether the video was real or not, fact is that anybody, and even Mystery, can also get rejected.

Surely there are other popular personalities in the dating and pickup community but the ones I have mentioned are the experts that men should watch out for. Usually, these dating experts give a free newsletter where you can get a sample of their works.

Most of these gurus were not born experts in dating. Some of them, or maybe most, were also once a shy type of person who doesn't know how to approach women. But they dared to join the dating or pickup community and became who they are now. Men who are afraid to go out and try developing some dating skills are missing a lot in their life.

Dating Tips: Approaching Women and Not Losing Chances

2010-01-25T04:16:00.000-08:00

How to approach a woman is a hard thing to do for most men. It seems so hard to think for an opening line, a particular topic that would interest her, or just how to grab her attention. Thinking about how she would react negatively or receive no response at all is unimaginable that is why most men are discouraged not to try. Being that a common problem for men, it has also been a common subject for dating tips everywhere. You can get opening lines from David DeAngelo or dress like Mystery to attract everybody's attention.

But the question is, are you ready for the next step? So what if you really did get her attention? What are you going to do after she fell into your opening lines? What if she counteracted at your opening lines?

After you have prepared on how to approach a woman, know how to do the next step from these two different situations:

Situation 1: You're not into pickup and you haven't learned some advanced techniques from David DeAngelo or Neil Strauss yet. So you used a simple opener that luckily worked on a woman.

Don't let that good chance of yours to just slip off because you got her bored or you stopped talking. A good conversation can get you a good date. So avoid a boring one and long pauses or what they call, dead air.

Ask open ended questions. This will let her talk a bit. Listen to what she says so that you will have an idea on what to say next. You will also be able to pickup some information on her: her interests or what pisses her off.

Do not make your conversation like an interview where you're the interviewer and she's the interviewee. Talk as well. Make her feel comfortable talking with you. Remember also to flirt with her or she might think you're just too nice of a guy. If possible, ask her to do something like walk with you, have a coffee at a nearby coffee shop, and the likes.

Situation 2: You are trying to use a dating technique that's supposed to be "challenging" a woman and you should be the one in-charge of the situation. But what happens is she challenges you back. She's using the same technique on you.

Don't be surprised nor act like your stunt is over and she won because it has just started. It is actually a good indication if she challenges you back. She's responding to your technique and "agreed" to play your game. So don't get nervous and never lose your composure or you will lose your chances on her. Instead, look into her eyes - do not flinch - and play the game! It is indeed challenging but it is where the real fun is.

Dating Tips For Men: How To Attract Girls

2010-01-15T05:17:00.000-08:00

Attraction is a powerful tool to successful dating. Even a serious relationship would last without attraction. Men get easily attracted to women through physical appearance. While women tend to get attracted with men's personality than their outward looks.

When you go to a club, there are always those guys whom girls would set their eyes and flirt on. If you happen to be among them, then having a date won't be too much of a problem. You may just have a hard time choosing whom to go with for the night. But if not, then its time you learn the secret on how to attract the girls' attention.

1. Smile. As always, the smile is your most important weapon in attraction, even David DeAngelo would agree to this. Don't put too much effort on it though because you may look really stupid. Smile naturally as if you're having a great time. You will look approachable, friendly and more attractive by wearing that smile. Girls will find it easier to flirt with you as well.

2. If you want to get noticed, you should be at the best spot of the place and where should it be? At the center of the room, of course. Where you are matters in attracting girls. Be at the center standing, interacting with others, or just let your body go with the beat of the music. The bars at the corner is also a good place to be at where people come for a drink or just stand by.

If you don't want a time on your own, don't stay long near the wall or at the table. Even Mystery with his costumes and tall hat will not be given any attention if he's just staying at his table.

3. Body language is a frequently used tool of communication in dating, especially with flirting. Women are attracted to men who appears to be more dominant. Here's what you should do: stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart while your toes should be pointing outward. Be more assertive when you talk and do not fold your arms. Drop the habit of chewing a gum or ice and biting your fingernails. Aside that it is sometimes gross, it is also a sign of anxiety which is not very attractive to others.

So we were talking about attracting the girls' attention not by acting stupid or making a shameful scene but by being the apple of their eyes. Now you don't need to read some dating e-books from David DeAngelo, just follow the three tips mentioned above and be ready socializing and flirting with girls.

Online Dating Or Real Dating?

2010-01-07T22:33:00.001-08:00

The internet has given some people a chance to find a date or a life partner. People who are too shy to mingle with others or with the opposite sex are taking advantage of the internet in finding someone to date with.

Online dating really seems to be advantageous for introvert or shy people. Approaching someone in person is a hard thing to do. Even if they have read some tips from David DeAngelo, or seen videos of the Pickup Artist, they still have no guts to talk to someone in person nor approach them. Hence, talking or chatting with some stranger on the internet is more preferable - they don't need to see each other face to face so no pressure at all.
A major disadvantage of online dating is that it is too risky. Sharing your personal information is not advisable. So you can never be sure if the person you're exchanging information with is telling the truth as well.

Online dating is not only for shy people though. It is just too convenient for some to find a date on the internet. You can find a lot of profiles of men and women, see their pictures, know their backgrounds... so all you got to do is search and choose whom to approach. But is this really effective? There seems to be a lot of people who got lucky to have met their partners over the internet.

With your pc or laptop at home, do you really need to go out just to find a date? Its up to you, actually. But with real dating, you get to interact with people in the real world and not in the virtual world. Real dating is not just about finding someone to date with but it is also about personal development. There are some people who are only good in online conversations but not in the real world.

With the hype of dating schools, dating seminars, trainings, and bootcamps, more men are stepping out of their comfort zone and join the others not only in improving themselves but learning new dating techniques as well. Pickup artists like Neil Strauss, Julian Foxx, and Mystery have helped a lot of men in developing their own dating skills.

Online dating can be fun, but isn't going out and meeting new people while partying or doing some sports more fun?

Flirting: An Effective Way To Dating

2010-01-04T01:05:00.000-08:00

Perhaps one of the most common problems for men when it comes to dating is how to approach a woman. There are a lot of tips, techniques, methods, or whatever-you-wanna-call-it that have surfaced all over the internet. You may actually find new techniques promoted by different dating gurus or pickup artists - heard of the mystery method from PUA, Mystery? The truth here is that these techniques already existed before.

Flirting is a method that has been used ages ago but is still very effective today even with the existence of the "mystery method" or the dating e-books of David DeAngelo. For guys who are yet starting to join the dating community, flirting will be an easy and effective way to begin with. Flirting can be done in various ways: body language, facial expression, or in a conversation.

Never underestimate the power of a smile. You can start flirting with a girl by showing her that warm and friendly smile. Your eyes is actually a good tool in flirting. Winking and a lot of eye contact can give you more chances of getting a date. Just don't overdo the winking or the girl may think you have some eye irritation. Keep it natural so that she will know that you are interested with her. In making an eye contact, hold your gaze longer than usual to see how she responds.

Sometimes, we may not be aware that our body movements are already showing some flirting signs. Frequently rubbing your hands or wrists with her, playing with your hands or hers, sitting facing a woman with your legs open, and a lot more. When flirting, it will be very helpful if you show confidence. Keep your posture as tall and as firm as possible. Remember to be moderate and not overdo your flirting signs because she may get uncomfortable with it.

Learn how to read the flirting signs of girls as well so that you can respond to them. You may see someone pushing her breasts in your direction or showing her thighs. Do not misinterpret it with some sexual interest. She may only be flirting with you.

When having a conversation, choose topics that you are interested in and avoid deep conversations about politics, religion, etc. The important thing here is that you both enjoy the conversation.

Flirting is very simple yet fun. You do not necessarily have to use any pickup lines, memorize a script, or follow what David DeAngelo has to say about dating. Keep practicing and flirting will be easier for you. Be confident, feel comfortable and relaxed, and enjoy!

Six Dating Facts You Should Not Ignore

2009-12-01T09:17:00.000-08:00

Most guys fail in dating because of lack of knowledge. There are certain facts in dating that they need to know and need to be prepared of especially things about women. You may have learned some dating techniques from David DeAngelo or Mystery, but you have to be equipped with dating knowledge to be able to use these techniques successfully.

Fact #1 Once a woman is not interested with you, you can never change that. So it will be a waste of time if you try pushing yourself to them.

Fact #2 Guys are attracted to beautiful and sexy women. But it doesn’t work that way with women. They are attracted to guys not because of looks but more on their qualities.

Fact #3 Common notion could be that money matters to women, especially the beautiful and sexy ones. That could be true to some, but generally, the personality is what matters most for them. Sense of humor is one characteristics of men that works great with women.

Fact #4 Women are better than men when it comes to reading body language. They’ll know if you want to get their number, kiss them, etc. and if you don’t know how to do it, you might just turn her off.

Fact #5 Men cannot be both a friend and a lover to a woman. You should let her know or feel about your intention or you’ll end up to be just friends.

Fact #6 Most men think that they have no chance of dating a woman because they don’t know how to approach them or ask them out. The thing is that there are a lot of dating schools where they can enroll and learn excellent dating skills. The trend today is joining in a bootcamp where you can witness how the pickup artist would approach a woman, talk to her, and eventually end up dating her.

Those are facts may sound very simple but knowing about them is actually very helpful. These are the facts in dating that you should not ignore even if you’ve learned great techniques from David Deangelo or any other gurus.

The Best Dating Tips For Men

2009-11-18T13:18:00.000-08:00

Let me guess. You're a guy who searched for dating tips that would help you in getting a date. Or maybe you like this girl and wants to date her but you don't know how to ask her. A lot of guys have the same problem and they conveniently search for the answer sitting in front of their computers surfing the net. Then they would find a lot of dating tips that will tell them what to do, what to say, how to act, etc. I have to admit they can be quite effective.

You may have learned about the "cocky comedy" from David DeAngelo, the mystery method from Mystery, or the Inner Game From Neil Strauss. But I guess the best dating tip could be this:

Take Action.

You may have heard it from anybody so I wouldn't take credit for it. The thing here is that all those tips and advices you got from David DeAngelo or other famous dating gurus will be nothing if you just spend your time reading all the theories and not taking action. Some guys would actually make those research an excuse in delaying the action.

After reading some tips, you don't actually have to memorize all the steps on what you should do. You just need to have an idea on how things actually work in dating. Then you should go out and practice what you have learned. Don't worry about failure or rejection because it happens to everyone. According to PUA, Julian Foxx, you have to know how to deal with rejection and you should not fear it.

I know its never easy. So taking action could mean that you may also have to really TAKE ACTION by going to the next level. Not by directly applying the theories you've learned but by attending trainings and bootcamps wherein you can be more exposed in the dating community and be trained by real experts.

Reading all those theories will be useless if you don't take action. So go out and start having fun!

5 Types of Dating Tips For Men

2009-11-10T12:58:00.000-08:00

In searching for any good dating advice, most of you might be expecting some do’s and don’ts or come across at some articles or videos of David DeAngelo or Neil Strauss. Surely they can be a lot of help. Knowing the basics of dating will help you get through it successfully and will have a better chance of having a second date with the same person. Though some men may need other kinds of dating advice. If you are not sure what type of advice you need, you may check on the following:

1. Beginners. These are the types of advice that are suited for beginners like the one mentioned above, the basic do’s and dont’s of dating. Like who gets to pay the bill, where to take your date, and the likes.

2. If you think you’re not a guy whom girls would likely to throw their attention at first sight, then you should check those dating tips for guys on how to improve yourself. Examples of this is how to improve your scent, to be clean or tidy looking, etc.

3. If you want to learn how other guys, especially the pickup artist, can sleep with girls on their first date, then you should be looking for seduction tips. Though these kinds of advice are more advanced.

4. Relationship advice. Some men are seeking a more serious advice and not just about dating some girls. They are looking for advice about winning a woman’s heart.

5. Understanding women. Though you will not really search for advice on how to understand women, you may still find some stuff about them. Sometimes, or maybe most of the times, it helps to know how women thinks. An interesting example of this is Julian Foxx’s explanation on how the women’s menstrual cycle affects their preference of men.

If you are really serious on improving yourself and developing some dating skills, then finding some tips may not be enough. Try attending some trainings and bootcamps. You’ll be more exposed on how things really work in the dating community. Learn from the experts.

Mystery: World's Greatest Pickup Artist?

2009-10-26T13:44:00.000-07:00

If you're watching VH1's The Pickup Artist Reality Show, then you may well know Mystery the pickup artist. Aside from being featured in the VH1 reality show, he is also a main character in the book, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss.

Mystery regarded himself as the "world's greatest pickup artist" although some may disagree. There are a lot of pickup artists in the seduction community and some of them may be greater than him when it comes to picking up girls. But that can really be a subjective matter.

Though some guys (or even girls) would not agree with Mystery as the world's greatest pua, his works and contributions in the community are indeed remarkable. The Mystery Method, for one, has been proven to be very useful and effective in pickup. He has also contributed some terms or jargons in the community:

Set - A group of two or more people which a man would have to approach and befriend in order to be able to woo his "target" girl. "Beautiful women are rarely found alone."
Peacocking - Dressing to stand out, or to have an item of clothing or an accessory that looks interesting, allowing the girl to comment on it if she is interested in starting a conversation with you.
The 3-second Rule - If you see a girl you are interested in, you must approach her within three seconds or you will over-think things and create too much approach anxiety and analysis paralysis, and you will risk her seeing you staring at her.
Neg - A backhanded compliment intended to snub a potential mate ("target"), telegraph a lack of interest ("false disqualification"), encourage the target to prove her worth ("qualify"), and simultaneously disarm 'obstacles' such as protective male or female friends.

source: wikepedia.org

Mystery is one of the founders of the Mystery Method Corporation. In 2006 Mystery left the company and ventured on his own company called Venusian Arts. The Mystery Method Corp. has since changed its name to Love Systems.

Another contribution of Mystery in the community is his book, The Mystery Method: How to get Beautiful Women into Bed.

All the popularity of a pickup artist may go to Mystery but in reality, there are a lot of great pickup artists in the community who gives trainings and conducts bootcamps to help guys in developing their dating skills. Some guys would prefer to go with underground puas because of Mystery's overexposure and too much commercialization.

Mystery is not the only one who has had great contributions in the community. Dating coach, David DeAngelo, had significant contributions in the community as well as Neil Strauss.

Julian Foxx: The Fastest Rising Pickup Artist

2009-10-14T06:35:00.000-07:00

There are many popular pickup artists in the dating community. Most of them gives trainings and organizes bootcamps. Among these pickup artists, Julian Foxx is said to be the fastest rising star. Main reason could be the fact that he has beaten Mystery in a friendly Pickup challenge. The video has surfaced all over the internet and there were even rumors that Neil Strauss and/or Mystery is going to sue him. But that remained to be just a rumor.

You may have been impressed with the works of David DeAngelo or Mystery's live video footage but you will be more impressed with Julian's dating techniques. He has already proven his efectiveness as a pickup artist in his pickup challenge video with Mystery. His "7 Killer Dating Tactics You Haven't Heard Before" newsletter has been very helpful to guys who have subscribed in them - and that's for free. Check it out at his website, julianfoxx.com.

Julian Foxx is also one of the top speakers at The 21 Convention, the leading men's success convention. Speakers share their knowledge and expertise to help men succeed with women. He also had collaborations with his fellow pickup artist, Vin DiCarlo. You will see some of their videos discussing about phone game and getting rid of "flakes."

While some men still doubt his pickup techniques, more and more guys actually believe that he's good and he's got unique strategies in pickup.

Dating Techniques From Experts

2009-10-09T06:37:00.000-07:00

Its no secret that a lot of guys need help when it comes to dating. Most of them may not show or admit it. The internet is a good source of information and good thing about it is that you can keep your identity. In searching for different dating tips for men, a lot of you could have found out some secrets on dating, the dos and don’t, facts or trivias about girls, and of course different techniques.

Perhaps you may have also known or maybe even met some of the popular gurus like Neil Strauss, author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Societies of Pickup Artists and David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating ebook, and pickup artists like Mystery and Julian Foxx. Each of these personalities have different ideas, techniques, or tips on how to pickup girls.

The tips that you can find in the internet are mostly basic. If you really want to learn and develop a more advanced dating skills, you have to go to the professionals – dating gurus or pickup artists. They usually have schools, organize a bootcamp, provide materials for learning, and other stuffs that would help their students improve in dating. Working with the professionals, especially with the pickup artists, will give you an edge in dating. Not only that you will learn advanced techniques but you will have the chance to see a live demonstration from them. Another advantage is for you to be able to practice those techniques.

In all this hype about dating and pickup, I think its not all about learning those pickup lines or advanced techniques on how to attract women. It is also about developing yourself – boosting your confidence, improving your communication skills, and eliminating some of those old, not to mention, bad habits.

Knowing David DeAngelo

2009-09-29T13:39:00.000-07:00

Eben W. Pagan a.k.a. David DeAngelo, is very popular in the dating and pickup community. Not as a pickup artist like Mystery or Julian Foxx but as a dating expert. He was a student of Ross Jeffries and was known as Sisonpyh but he separated and developed his own methods and beliefs. He authored the Double Your Dating ebook which is a series of dating tutorials and was also the sole product of DeAngelo's enterprise, "Double Your Dating." Though he also released other products about dating like Advanced Dating series and Deep Inner Game.

Some of the dating terms that were popularized by David DeAngelo are:

* The Inner Wuss: a character trait of men developed through time that causes them to become submissive around women in order to get their approval. Pagan claims that women prefer men who are of higher status than they.
* Cocky and funny: also known as 'cocky comedy' can be called flirting, this refers to combination of arrogance and humor. A humorous mock arrogance intended to communicate with intelligence and being 'a challenge'. Pagan points out that it is important to get the balance right, as just using 'cocky' "comes across as insecure, and comedy alone usually comes across as goofy and dumb." "Cocky and Funny" is often abbreviated as "C&F."
* Counterintuitive behavior: Pagan's description of some of his techniques to attract women, as they are the opposite of what most people think is attractive. Examples of such behavior include teasing a woman offhandedly and refusing to compliment her appearance. Can also be phrased as Don't behave in a boring or predictable way.
* Life changes: Pagan reiterates that the purpose of his programs is to effect a complete personality and lifestyle change among men that will help them achieve dating success.
* Emulate the Successful: Pagan encourages the following and emulation of those successful with women. He records interviews with those very successful in dating and releases them monthly as part of a subscription service.
* Sexual Communication: Pagan's principle of a 'secret mating language' or 'secret mating dance' that takes place between a man and a woman before they can mate.
* Reframing: Restructuring one's own beliefs set into a new one, such as changing self-doubt to positive thinking.
source: Wikipedia

David DeAngelo has undoubtedly contributed much in the dating community. His methods are widely used by most men.

You also gotta read the opinion of Julian Foxx about David DeAngelo to know more truth about him.;)

Neil Strauss

2009-09-16T08:20:00.001-07:00

American author, Neil Strauss a.k.a Style, is very popular in the PUA community. His best-selling book, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, is a great hit and contribution in the community. He's got a video with Julian Foxx wherein Foxx was challenging him in a friendly pickup contest. Strauss refused and passed on the challenge to Mystery.

Here's Julian Foxx's opinion about Neil Strauss:

In spite of his success, Neil was aware that there was one part of his life where he had dealt with constant failure: he just couldn't seem to get any action from the opposite sex. His obvious talent for writing wasn't of much assistance when it came to dating. He started researching online and found that there was a 'secret society of pickup artists' who consistently held meetings in order to sharpen their skills with women.

Strauss signed on for a bootcamp held by Mystery, and thus began the short journey that would very quickly transform into the best selling book: 'The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists'. The book was essentially a 'who's who' of pickup while the community was still in its infancy. It describes Strauss' rapid rise within the pickup community, morphing himself from Neil Strauss, well known writer, into 'Style', master pickup artist. Using the varying techniques he acquired from Mystery and a host of other gurus, Style eventually became known as the "No. 1 Pick-Up artist in the world" shortly after the books release.

'The Game' went on to become such a tremendous financial success that in late 2007, Neil wrote a sequel; 'The Rules of the Game.' Wanting to pass on his seduction knowledge to the community, Neil also created a school for pickup artists. Although it is extremely rare for Style to do 'live demonstrations' he shares his pickup ideas with the community freely.

Neil Strauss' contributions to the overall growth of the Seduction Community are undeniable.

source: http://www.julianfoxx.com/neil-strauss

Neil Strauss is undoubtedly a good author and his books have made a huge impact in the PUA community. It would be great also if we can see live video demonstrations from him using his knowledge in pickup. ;)

Dating Tips – If You Can’t Dance, Don’t!

2009-09-10T02:53:00.000-07:00

So the moral of the story is…

If you can’t dance…DON’T

Now on the surface, that seems like a nice little piece of dating advice. But it goes much deeper than that…

It is a powerful metaphor that MUST be applied to every aspect of your game.

You see, as pickup artists we all have our own individual strengths and our own individual weaknesses.

Having a good sense of humor is obviously a strength and one which can be exploited when related to dating and relationships in general.

But right now I want to focus on our weaknesses… because we all got em.

There are the kinds of weaknesses we can change and there are the kinds we can’t. And it is up to you to decide which of your weaknesses are worth devoting time to improving.

But what I’m asking you to do is to make a list of your weaknesses and then go down that list and check off whichever ones are HIDEABLE.

For example, as previously stated, I am a terrible dancer… But I have the option NOT to dance and therefore not reveal that weakness. I am also a very messy eater… But I have the option NOT to take my date out to eat. (Or at the very least, I can avoid ordering the spaghetti.)

Identifying our own weaknesses is crucial, but by identifying which of our weaknesses can be masked and then doing so, we are taking our game to the next level.

So just remember…If you can’t dance…

Don’t.

Peace,

Julian

The Mystery Method: Is It Really Effective?

2009-09-08T06:34:00.000-07:00

Perhaps one of the most popular pickup artists today is Mystery. He has developed the Mystery Method which is used by many guys until today. The effectiveness of the Mystery Method is quite undeniable. However, time has changed and it has become too exposed or transparent to women already. They are now aware of the pickup techniques, especially the Mystery Method. So basically, it might no longer be effective to most women.

Here's a good discussion about the controversy of the Mystery Method: Click here

From A Psychologist’s Point of View

2009-09-06T22:54:00.000-07:00

The dating tips and ideas that pickup artists have been sharing to us, guys, are indeed effective. Even psychologists agree with most of the pickup artists in the community. Take a look at this video by Dr. Epstein, a research psychologist for thirty years, about inner game and the pickup industry.

The Solution To Flaking

2009-09-04T06:44:00.000-07:00

Probably many guys have started to go out and tried the dating tips and techniques they learned from some of the pickup artist. One problem they may encounter is flaking. It is actually normal in the dating scene. Well, pickup Artists Julian Foxx and Vin DiCarlo has a solution to that. Check out their video:

Julian Foxx Vs. Mystery

2009-04-27T11:22:00.000-07:00

I have previously posted here about the controversial video of the pickup challenge between Julian Foxx and Mystery. It was just a teaser though. Here's the full version of it. Look closely how the two pickup artists differ in their approach to a girl.

Seduction and Dating Tips For Men: The Most Important Skill in Pickup

2009-04-22T13:24:00.000-07:00

Out of all the questions I'm emailed, there is one that continues to surface...

"What is the most important skill to develop in pickup?"

I believe the very nature of this question is problematic. It suggests that there is a quick fix to our dating problems and that's simply not the case.

If there is one thing I've discovered in my trainings, it is this: Powerful pickup techniques can certainly help a client, but not NEARLY as much as identifying and eliminating previously existing bad habits.
Most of the time the client is not aware of these habits, and it requires some real work on my part just to convince them that they exist in the first place.

This is also what I believe is wrong with most of the pickup training or dating tips for guys out there...It teaches a methodology or system without taking into account the individual hangups that the client most certainly has.

The unique training I've developed with Dr. Robert Epstein (one of the most respected psychologists in the world) not only presents a comprehensive pickup system to master, but the exercises are individually tailored to each client.

Now before I get too sale-sy, you should know that I'm actually making a point here:

The most important pickup skill you can develop is to become more aware of your own bad habits...and come up with effective solutions to help get rid of them.

In other words, you can master every damn dating tips for men and pickup technique that you want... but if every time you open you mouth, flecks of saliva spray her in the face... you've pretty much failed no matter what.

Now, of course there are many other skills and dating advice that one could argue are 'the most important.'

For example, we are very big on relaxation here... Giving every client an arsenal of invisible ways to minimize stress in tough situations is essential.

But there is one other skill that I feel deserves mention...In fact, this is the skill that in my not-so-humble opinion separates the men from the boys in the dating game:

The ability to cope with resistance.

Lets face it, most of us have had an easy lay at one point or another. Hopefully you know what I'm talking about...It was just ON...You liked her, she liked you, you were horny, so was she... Escalation to sex was as smooth as butter.

This kind of lay doesn't impress me at all.

Not that I turn it down when it happens, of course;)

What impresses me is how a client performs in the face of real resistance. In other words, she is blocking your attempts to push the relationship forward. Oftentimes this resistance is a result of a mistake you might have made.

And we all make mistakes, so get used to it.

The best seductions I've ever done were always the ones where I made a critical error...and was able to recover.

So the next time you screw up on an approach or a date, remember that it is actually an incredible opportunity to see if you can bounce back...

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Julian Foxx is considered by many to be the fastest Rising Star in the pickup artist and dating community. His jaw dropping effectiveness with women is matched only by his ability to innovate powerful new techniques, giving their user a ridiculously unfair advantage. To discover cutting edge dating tips for guys check out http://www.julianfoxx.com

The Pickup Artist Sits Like A Procurer To Avoid Anxiety

2009-03-27T09:01:00.000-07:00

Don't you feel anxious towards a girl even just talking with her on the phone? If not entirely, there could be times when you get into an awkward topic, or that you may feel tensed or pressured in a certain moment. Some girls tend to be really dominant especially in a conversation, and this is just on the phone. That's why some guys would get intimidated by them.

So here is one of the most simple dating tips that will instantly pump up your phone game...

This technique is called: 'Sit Like A Procurer'

Yeah, you read right, but bear with me for a minute.

Just before you call a lady you may be interested in (or perhaps she's calling you), it is extremely helpful to sit down, and get into a comfortable 'Procurer-like' physical position. If you are not sure what that looks like go watch 'Hustle n' Flow' or turn on BET.

The key to finding your own personal inner Procurer is one thing:

Comfort. Physical comfort is your gauge. If you like to sit in the couch with your legs crossed, then go ahead. I personally like to lean back, stretch my legs out, and take up as much space as I want.

If you have a plush couch or comfy chair (or anything really) go ahead and give this technique a try RIGHT NOW. Maybe grab a rocks glass and try it with a drink in your hand if it helps. Practice it until you've got it.

Phase 2: Now call a girl you've been interested in, but make sure you are 'Sittin' like a Procurer.' Stay in position throughout the phone call and notice if and when you begin to reflexively change into a less comfortable position.

What you will probably find in this dating advice is that this new 'Procurer-like' physical position is going to accomplish two things:

A) It will automatically put you into a more dominant and relaxed frame. This will give you a clearer mind that will make you think of some appropriate conversational skills to use towards her.

B) It will help to relieve any excess anxiety you may be experiencing over calling her.

Remember: If you are really physically relaxed, it is a lot harder to experience emotional distress.

WARNING: Do not take this too far! The exercise is 'Sit like a Procurer' NOT 'Smack her in the face if she don't got my loot!'

Seduction and Dating Tips - The iPod For 2 Technique

2009-03-24T12:09:00.000-07:00

We somehow feel that awkward moment during the first few minutes of meeting our date. But of course, we eventually get the hang of it. To help get you through those occasionally awkward first few minutes of a 'date,' here is a Super simple dating advice from the pickup artist. Although it can be used at any time throughout the meeting.

Julian Foxx calls it: 'Ipod for 2'

Now this dating advice works in almost any environment and most situations.

So here's a scenario: You've just met a girl by the subway station near your house. (you got her to come to meet you right?:) It is your first 'date' and you are wearing an Ipod. You say your Hello's, and begin some playful banter.

Step 1: As you are walking along the street towards your destination, you say "Oh Wow, you have got to listen to this."

And hand her just one of the earbuds. (If you're feeling bold, go ahead and stick it in her ear for her;) The key is that the other earbud stays in your ear, preferably the one closer to her...

Step 2: Play whatever song you want. The trick is to share something with her that you genuinely enjoy listening to and are hopefully even passionate about. Just don't play U2's, "With or Without You" because that would just be lame.

In fact, to be on the safe side, stay away from anything too lovey dovey sounding.

Step 3: Just be with her as the music plays and keep heading towards your destination. (Doesn't matter if you're stationary or sitting down btw)

The benefit of this technique is twofold;

1. You are sharing something with her that has meaning to you. This sets the stage for her to share something personal back.

2. It isn't possible to share Ipod headphones and NOT be constantly touching the person you're sharing them with... The more music you play her, the more comfortable she is getting with your touch. And it is totally incidental! (How else could you both listen?)In other words, you have a legitimate and excusable reason to be that physically close to her. 'Ipod for 2' is one of the most simple yet effective dating tips for men that you can even use it anytime throughout the interaction, so don't feel obligated to try it at the very beginning.

In fact, if the date is going well it has much more potential impact when used after some initial bonding has occurred.

Dating Advice - The 'Perfume to Her Room' Technique

2009-03-19T13:58:00.000-07:00

Here's a super effective dating advice from Julian Foxx that we've had a lot of success with:

It is called, the 'Perfume to Her Room'

You can usually use it on a first date, but for the more advanced it can also be used immediately after opening her. Lets assume for this example that you are meeting her at a bar for a date and you've just walked in. (Because naturally you were later than her right?;)

Step 1: Establish a reason to get physically close to her. (hug, high five, doesn't matter)

Step 2: Notice her perfume.

Step 3: Say something like: "Oh my God, what is that?? That smells amazing!" Even if it stinks. You now have a legitimate reason to continue smelling her throughout the evening.

Step 4: Look for opportunities throughout the interaction to keep smelling her. You can say something like, "Man, your perfume really is great, I gotta smell that again." Don't ask for permission to smell it, you simply can't resist!

Providing you are both having a decent time this trick will allow you to smoothly transition from innocently smelling her to eventually nuzzling your face in her neck. Now at some point she will become totally conscious of what you are doing...but that's okay! Usually by the time that happens you've already created a good amount of intimacy and she is fine with it.

So you may be wondering, 'how many times over the course of a date should I actually smell her?'

As many as you like. Usually pickup artists are in the ballpark of 4-8. The important thing is not how many times, but whether or not each time is progressively becoming more intimate.

You may also be wondering, 'when is the best time to do it?'

You may save it for right after a highpoint in the interaction. (A shared laugh, a moment of meaningful eye contact, etc.) However, these dating tips can also function as a failsafe to pull out of your back pocket if you run out of things to talk about or you want to change the subject.

And finally, what happens when she says, "I'm not wearing any perfume." Simple adjustment: Do everything explained above just change the word perfume to soap or even natural scent. Ex: "Not perfume?? No way, I don't believe you. Let me check again... (you double check;) Well, you've got the best damn natural scent I've ever smelled. Wow."

Dating Tips For Men: Improving Your Calibration

2009-03-13T16:10:00.000-07:00

Guys usually talk about calibration. Most dating tips for men include such thing. But what does calibration REALLY mean in relation to dating?

You could open the dictionary and easily look up a dozen different definitions for the word.

But there is one in particular that the pickup artist should put in mind:

cal·i·brate [kal-uh-breyt] -verb

-to determine the correct range for (an artillery gun, mortar, etc.) by observing where the fired projectile hits.

Please read that again because it is a perfect analogy for what we are trying to accomplish in a seduction.

Every guru and their mother make reference to calibration but tend to be extremely vague when talking about how to IMPROVE IT.

There are a lot of sorts of crap, everything from "You just have to practice more" to "Calibration can't be taught, that's why naturals are naturals."

Such bullshit. If I could put a sound effect in right now it would be that annoying buzzer from Family Feud.

Of course calibration can be improved! And here's a technique that will do it. This dating advice is called:

'Imaginary Action Reversal'

In a nutshell it's quite simple...

Before you start down a risky conversational topic, send a text message, make a phone call, go in for the kiss, or any other assortment of actions you might take with a woman, it is useful to IMAGINE that whatever you are about to do...she does to you instead!

Then ask yourself:

"Did I just get MORE attracted or LESS attracted to her?"

And finally, allow your intuitive response to guide your decision whether or not to make the move.

Think about it...

Who is the best judge you have to determine if an action is 'attractive' or not?

You guessed it, it's YOU.

They say men are from Mars and woman are from Jupiter or whatever, but we sure got a lot of things in common and one of those things is definitely attraction.

Behavior that normally turns me off, usually turns a woman off. And behavior that normally turns me on, usually turns a woman on.

We are not as different as society has us believe.

So if you'd like to take your own calibration to the next level, here is a quick recap of the steps:

1. You get an impulse to say or do something that relates to her

2. You imagine HER saying or doing it to YOU

3. You pay attention to your own emotional response (to the image) and let the quality of your response determine whether or not you go through with the action.

Easy as Pie.

Practicing this exercise is simple, fun, and an amazingly effective way of developing pin-point calibration.

PS: Depending on the situation, the amount of TIME you have to use the technique is a factor. You don't want to interrupt the flow of a good conversation if you don't have to.

Just be confident that the more comfortable you become with Imaginary Action Reversal, the faster you will get, and eventually it will become something you are always subliminally aware of.

Dating Tips: An Effective Technique From The Pickup Artist

2009-03-09T14:28:00.000-07:00

The following dating tips are plain ol' dirty. Some men may not even find it worthy but hey, this is proven to be really effective. So its worth a post in here.

This dating advice is called, 'Yourspace IS Myspace' technique. Obviously you will have to indulge yourself into some social networking sites or online dating profiles like myspace, facebook, etc. to make this technique work.

Let's take a look at this typical seduction scenario...

Once you have been able to get her number, you will either start to text or call her, getting her on the phone. Either you text or call her, your goal is to find out specific things about her like the things she's interested to or passionate about.

Learn from these few examples that you should be after:

'She loves The Dark Knight because of Heath Ledger, she craves for a strawberry ice cream, she is into photography, etc.'

Meanwhile, as we progressively collect these information from her, we should also be simultaneously logged in to our Myspace account. What do we do then? If you guessed to quickly edit our personal details, then you got it right, we should match it to hers.

But you should not of course copy it plainly. Use more of your imagination here. For example, if she said she loves The Dark Knight movie because of Health Ledger, put in your profile that The Dark Knight is one of your favorite movies. Then add in parenthesis - (Heath Ledger made it more fantastic).

Next thing to do after gathering two or more personal information from her, accuse her of stalking into your myspace profile (remember that you should have already made the changes in your profile by this time).

You can tell her that you already think she's awesome and she don't have to pretend that she has all of those things in common with you. Naturally, she might sound surprised and deny it. Then you can reply back "okkk..." still with a tone of disbelief. When she asks for your myspace, reply something like, "I think you already know, but just for kicks its myspace.co******." She will then check on it and will be totally surprised.

You may realize at this point that you already have created an instant bonding between the two of you. So, in this technique, she did not only buy it but you will have a higher perceived status because she still have to persuade you that she was not trying to seduce you.

At some point, do acknowledge with her that there is something pretty special going on and discard first the 'playful suspicion.'

Now when you reach the point where you both get excited about the things you have in common, it is a good opportunity for you to make plans for your date. Good thing about this is that you will have various options as to what to do with her; meet in an ice cream parlor, watch a movie, etc. The point here is that you have an idea on what to do together simply because "you both love so many similar things."

I told you this technique can be considered a bit underhanded, not to mention, cheesy. But what matters is most is that it works!

You do have to make sure that your Facebook or Myspace profile settings that allow people to see when you've made updates to your profile is off. Also, it is very important that she has never really seen your profile yet.

The Pickup Artist Knows How To Deal With Rejection

2009-03-03T05:39:00.000-08:00

Perhaps one of the crappiest dating tips for guys is what some people call the '5 for 5.' It says that the true master pickup artist can sleep with 5 out of 5 girls he approaches. If you are not a Master pickup artist, then you'll be regarded as an AFC. Nothing in between.

That way of thinking is just plain ridiculous. Perfection in pickup DOES NOT exist. Well, perfection does not exist in this world, anyways.

Though this belief is good for business. If guys who study this stuff believe in this crap, it means more profit for those who sell products, workshops, etc. The '5 for 5' concept is just no true even if you ask a famous pickup artist.

However, what we must understand is that these workshops and products for pickup can really help us improve. A shy, unskilled guy can be transformed into an effective pickup artist if he wants to. Its just that we must not fall into this belief of perfection because there is no such thing. The '5 for f' belief can destroy those guys who train to get better. Why? Because the '5 for 5' concept is an unattainable goal for them.

To tell you the truth, the pickup artist faces rejection as well, even if he's the greatest one in the field. That's for real. If you get to sleep with 20% of the girls you pursue, you are already a great pickup artist and even on the 99th percentile of guys.

The real sign that a pickup artist is indeed a great one, is how he deals with rejection, not how little he deals with it.

There are different skill sets that composes that effectiveness of the pickup artist. Like slices of pizza, each part is relevant to your success. One of these important skills is how he is able to deal with rejection. So it is as important to practice dealing with rejection as practicing a new conversational skill or improving our energy. It is an important part of the pickup artist training to cope with rejection in a productive manner and is a vital part of the game.

It is very crucial to learn how to deal with rejection. If you deal with it poorly, rejection can be debilitating. But once you have properly harnessed it within yourself, it has the power to be our greatest teacher.

That's an important dating advice that we should always keep in mind every time a girl says 'No.'

Dating Tips On How To Improve Your Scent

2009-02-25T08:13:00.000-08:00

It is time to talk about hygiene guys.

According to scientific data, women choose their mates due to perceived strength of the man's immune system. It can also give a better chance of survival to her offspring. Recent research also suggests that the SCENT of a man determines his immune system's strength.

You may wonder how it all relates to dating. Well it is one of the factors that gives a high impact to the level of success you have with women. Some factor could be your posture, social circle, fashion sense, and of course your looks.

The point here is that there's no point mastering every dating skill if you are still funky or something. So here's something to work on yourself. Its a bit risky and well, scary but it will be worth it.

First off, find a person whom you can trust with and ask them you need a serious favor. Then make them swear that they would be completely honest with you. After that, get close to them - really close - and exhale directly into their face without warning them. You don't have to 'blow' into their face but make sure you go "hhhhaaaaaahhh," right from the back of your throat.

Important that you know the truth. Ask your friend to rate your breath and body odor on a scale of 1-10 - with 10 being the highest - so as to get an honest answer. That way, you'll get a more honest answer.

Here are your dating tips for a real fresh breath aside from listerine, flossing, and brushing:

1. Use a tonge scraper - get the ones that are long and wirey looking and not the ones that are attached to a toothbrush.

2. Mint-a-sure - these are little capsules you swallow that gives you fresh breath from the belly. If they are not available in your local drugstore, get them online. You don't have to chew a gum with these ones.

For a Great Smelling Hair:

3. There are a lot of known good brands of shampoo and conditioner for men. But it will not be effective for you unless you really scrub it into your scalp with your fingers.

For a Great Smelling Body:

4. Use a loofa or exfoliating gloves in the shower along with soap and then a body wash.

5. Baby wipes - use them after you take a crap. You might hesitate on this one but girls will feel a lot better about putting her mouth where the sun don't shine.

6. If you have an underarm odor issua, try shaving (or trimming) your armpits. They will look better and will work in your anti-perspirant as well. The armpit hair can serve as a barrier to your anti-perspirant.

7. Then again, if underarm odor is an issue, you can also use prescription strenth anti-perspirant like Certain Dri. Apply it before going to bed but make sure not to put too much of it.

Following these dating tips can increase your level of success to women plus you will smell better to people around you. This will also help us boost our confidence because we know that we smell great. In the pickup artist and dating community, confidence is one of their secrets. So we should have it with ourselves as well.

Dating Tips For Men: Know How To Meet Attractive Women

2009-02-23T09:16:00.000-08:00

Most men think that they aren't lucky enough to be able to meet beautiful and sexy women. Unlike in the pickup artist and dating community where most men find it easy to meet beautiful and sexy women.

These men aren't lucky. Yes they aren't. They just have the knowledge and the skills when it comes to women. The ones who's got the good looks may really be lucky, but all that matters is the strategy and the skills.

I just found a real effective way on how to meet the most attractive and hot women. Though it is very much applicable if you live in a fairly metropolitan area. So this will not work if you live in a farm.

So for those who are near or in the metropolitan area, here's how to meet beautiful women.

First, search for newspapers or websites in your area that cater to actors or models. Living in New York City can give you more options. The Backstage, The Ross Reports, and many others. Once you do this, you can then use them to identify the major casting offices and modeling agencies near or within your area.

Then, check for the advertisement and know when will the next audition or castings will be held by a particular office. These are the probable times when hot girls would go to.

Such advertisements that you should look out for are:

"Short Indy Film - Drama - Looking for male lead and also looking to cast 3 gorgeous blondes as main characters. Must be busty and comfortable with nudity. Auditions will be held at..."

You should definitely go to that one. Or to ads like this one:

"Models Wanted! New Agency is looking for the newest and hottest talent, come wearing form fitting clothing..."

Then you show up to the venue. Best thing to do is go to a coffee shop nearby the office or event and start watching or rather selecting for the girls you want to approach as they leave the casting. But if you'd like to go to the casting, then its up to you.

This could be such a big thing to do just to meet these beautiful and hot women. Well, you want to meet beautiful and hot women, right? Why not go to a place that has the most attractive and hottest women that you can bump into?

Follow these dating tips if you really want to meet beautiful and sexy women. There could be other places flooded with such women, that's where you should be spending most of your time.

Dating Tips For Guys: Effective Ways To Succeed With Hot Girls

2009-02-17T12:52:00.000-08:00

Have you ever thought how you do with the most attractive girls out there? Did you measure your success rate with them? Then compare them with your success rate with the average or the ones slightly below their level. You may not be surprised to find out that you do well with the ones that you just kind of like to. This actually happens to most men.

What we think then is that these hot girls are more selective than the average ones. If you think about it, it does makes sense. But this sounds more like an excuse for us. Because these girls aren't as choosy as what we've thought them to be. Our own behavior is what actually changes when it comes to these attractive girls because of what we think of them. This may sound cliche but it is actually true. We just sometimes feel intimidated because of their appearance and maybe status in the society especially when they're really popular.

So how do we deal with it? Here's one specific way:

Whenever you put a number of that hot girl on your phone, how do you name them? We usually put something like, "Sexy Monique," or "Scarlet Hot!" This kind of classification can affect our behavior in a subtle but negative way. For example, when you make a call to "Sexy Monique" you will feel more adrenaline than when you simply call "Monique."

So here's a dating advice from the pickup artist, Julian Foxx, its what he calls, "Reverse Classification."

Whenever you get a hot girl's phone number, look at her closely, and imagine what her juvenile class mates used to call her. If she's got nice fake breast, may she was flat as board and they probably called her "wall chest" or something. If she's tall and blonde, perhaps they called her "Monique Big Bird."

Now that you get the idea, next step is to store her name in your phone in that way (Scarlet Wall Chest, Monique Big Bird, etc.).

It will not only reduce any anxiety you feel whenever you call her, but it will also lessen your anxiety towards her when you're together. This can also help you gain more self-confidence and feel less intimidated around her.

Remember, these attractive girls are not really selective, its us who think that way and that's what keeping our success rates with them low. There could be other ways to overcome this aside from the "Reverse Classification" method. More dating tips soon.

A Pickup Challenge Video from Julian Foxx

2009-02-10T05:41:00.000-08:00

Names like Julian Foxx, Mystery, and many others are hitting up the pickup artist and dating community. The pickup artists are known for their expertise in women. Here’s a controversial video of Julian Foxx challenging Style for a friendly Pickup contest.

The second video though cannot be posted here because I got it from www.julianfoxx.com. So if you want to see it, visit the site and sign up for the video. Just provide them with your email and you will receive it in an instant. I just got my copy and its real cool. Check the video and there are some dating tips for guys to use effectively on women.

The Benefits of Being Early

2009-02-06T11:07:00.000-08:00

Tardiness is something that's really normal to most of us. Most common situation could be in school for students. Even I have always been late whether it was a doctor's appointment or a party, I always find myself asking for apologies.

Tardiness in fact has become a way of life for most of us. Some don't care about it and are even proud of it. For those who are used to it, its easy to get their selves out of trouble most of the time.

Here's a realization for all of us though: the amount of opportunities we get are directly correlated to how EARLY we are to things.

Here's an example situation:

I had a dinner meeting with a client at exactly 8pm and there I was, bursting my way out of the house when I suddenly remembered that I have changed the clock the night before. So I checked at my wristwatch and I wasn't late yet. In fact, I have some more time to kill.

So being early was something new to me. So I took my time getting to the place. I stopped into a coffee shop first and picked up some coffee.

Then I got myself with about half a dozen girls, and two of which I actually ended up sleeping with.

That's how I realized that if hadn't been running early, I would never have met those women. Also, it was a very relaxing state for me being early which was clearly perceptible to the women I have been chatting with.

Through this, I have also realized that my behavior pattern before had lost me some opportunities. Because every time I was running late to something I couldn't get to talk to some girls I saw. I always ran out of time and that is my excuse as always. However valid it may seem, it was still an excuse.

With that excuse, the solution was very clear and its my dating advice for you guys:

Start being early!

We usually meet women on our way to somewhere. Since most of us are not full time pickup artist, it is not as easy to approach women and chat with them as how the pickup artist do it. So being early would give us more time to meet people especially women.

So you'll thank me later with these dating tips of mine if you get to meet more women by being early. Though there are instances where its fine to be late and that's a date with a woman.

Dating Tips For Men: How to Avoid Anxiety on Your Date

2009-02-04T07:52:00.000-08:00

Anxiety has always been a hassle when we are dating. It keeps us from doing some tactics in impressing or maybe seducing our date - be it a learned or practiced tactic. It makes us forget the things that we practiced or some things that we have planned to do. Sometimes, anxiety is even visible in our face - sweating, blushing, etc. So to avoid feeling anxious around your date, here's a quick dating advice:

This is a technique that the pickup artist, Julian Foxx, calls "Imagine that..."

From the title of the technique, you can almost guess how its done. Yes, this is the time to use your imagination. Simply imagine something specific about her.

For example, If you are square-faced. You might like to imagine that she's totally head over heels when it comes to square-faced men. Or if you're wearing a black shirt or polo, try to imagine that its a total "turn-on" to her.

If she is particularly a redhead, imagine that her high school friends or school mates call her "Ginger."If you notice that she's got some mannerism like adjusting her shirt more often, or fixing her hair with her fingers, run your imagination through them. You can interpret these mannerisms in your own way. So everytime she adjusts her shirt could mean she's feeling horny at the moment. When she's fixing her hair with her fingers, she could be really into you or something.

But before you get too excited in practicing, applying, or experimenting this powerful technique, here's a reality check:

1. Remember that this is just a technique for you to reduce or avoid anxiety while you are around her. This is designed to boost your confidence. So these visualizations that you will have are for you alone to be aware of. These aren't real in the first place. You wouldn't actually give away your imaginations by calling her Ginger or assuming that she's really into you. So be careful.

2. The above examples are just mere examples. The "Imagine that..." technique will be more effective if you apply it according to your own situation. As what Julian Foxx said, "I call it 'Imagine that...' because you have to use your imagination to come up with your own unique visualizations."

Now you have the idea, all you have to do is use it. Its really useful when you have a date or you want to approach some women you really like.

The Preemptive Friendzone

2009-01-29T06:30:00.000-08:00

Most guys are afraid of what we call, "the friend zone". But for the pickup artists, it isn't something to be afraid of. Take it from the pickup artist himself, Julian Foxx. Here's another one of his dating tips:

I have often heard members of The Seduction community express the idea that ending up in the 'friend zone' is sad news. Usually when I hear it mentioned in a workshop the fear becomes tangible. I'd like to permanently change how guys interpret what the 'Friend Zone' really is. It definitely isn't something you should be afraid of as long as you are the one in control of it. We're about to make friends with the 'friend zone' so hang on tight...

A while back I met a very hot redhead named Amy at a club. We really seemed to hit it off and I got what I considered to be a solid number close. Our first date was set. So the next night we met for mojitos at a little restaurant when I observed something odd; no matter what I tried there just wasn't much magic happening. Truth be told, regardless of how skilled you become, it is impossible to mesh perfectly with 100% of the ladies you date. So what now? This is where a little solid calibration comes in handy. I believe what many men would try is to 'push through' and continue attempting to create the chemistry with her until either it happens, or it doesn't and she blows you off. Sound familiar?

So there we are sitting together in a plush leathery coach and I knew I was at that very crossroads. I really did want to take her home but I was aware if I continued to escalate that the chances of her blowing me off were very substantial. So I impulsively made the decision to try something new. I unleashed what I now call the 'Preemptive Friendzone' attack. Before she had a chance to reject me outright I very warmly and sincerely friendzoned her first. The warmth and caring with which I did it was the key. The objective wasn't to make her feel bad simply to feel like I rejected her first. My goal was to actually become friends with her. Let us briefly examine some of the more obvious benefits of having a hot female friend:

A: They will become an invaluable feedback resource for you. No one is going to give better information about the finer sex and how to attract them than a lady herself!

B: She becomes your Wing. You can and should assign them the job of hooking you up with other hot girls. Sorry guys, but I'll take one of my lady friends any day of the week over the best PUA wingman.

C: There is a good probability that she will start lusting after you. As a matter of fact, it's quite likely to occur eventually. I believe the reason for this is that once we are 'just friends' with them we release a lot of the pressure on ourselves. We no longer feel that urgency to attract them or make them comfortable or do whatever it was that you were doing that wasn't working in the first place. I don't like clichés much but it actually becomes easier to just be yourself.

Now if there is one thing that a hot girl is not used to it's the guy telling her first that he just wants to be friends. She will be so confused, and every bit of it is to your advantage. The trick is to really mean it. You should not use this technique and be thinking 'gonna get her in bed later, gonna get her in bed later.The ladies aren't dumb and she will definitely notice if you are transparent. Simply let her go (at least for a little while;)as someone you are pursuing and just think about the dozens of other women she will introduce you to.

So I said to her, "First of all, I think you're very chill. And you're definitely very attractive too, I just feel like were really meant to be good buddies or something." Pay close attention to her reaction, it will almost always be poorly masked shock. And from here you will find that the transition to a new and mutually beneficial friendship is relatively simple. Providing you have some basic social skills she will most likely hang out with you again simply because you friend zoned her first and by doing so tipped the status seesaw more in your favor. Just make sure that you are not deceiving yourself here. Are you truly behaving like a buddy would when you are together or are you still 'gamin her?'

Here are a few telltale signs that indicate for me that I am really amongst friends: I burp a lot. I have lots of playful touching going on. I have no problem saying pretty offensive things. I am free to share my personal thoughts and feelings, etc... So just to sum things up: the friend zone should not ever be your goal initially. This technique is to be used when you are dealing with inevitable meltdown. That being said, you will find that cultivating hot female friends will have incredible benefits to your social life and love life as well.

Have fun,

Julian Foxx

PS: To this day Amy is still a good friend of mine somehow, even after I dated her sister;)

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Dating Women Simultaneously for Unexpected Reasons

2009-01-28T10:26:00.000-08:00

While some guys want to date as many girls as they can, there are those who want to date the one girl for them. Would you believe if I tell you that you might find her if you date multiple girls? Here are good dating tips for guys out there who would like to find the right one for them. This article is again from Julian Foxx.

Many of you reading this right now probably need very little nudging from me to recognize many of the more obvious benefits of having a lot of girls on your radar. Despite this, it can still be very helpful to look carefully at the reasons why. And for the men out there desperately seeking 'the one' I strongly urge you to read on.

If you are going after lots of girls, one or two rejections is no big deal. If I am actively pursuing 10 girls at the same time and two of them flake I have a wonderful place to refocus my attention: 8 other lovely prospects. In fact, if you view your failures as learning experiences than you can take whatever you may have learned from the two flakes and instantly apply those lessons to subsequent interactions. In essence, failure can become exciting and fun! (Although clearly it should never be your goal)

There's an old joke that always stuck with me: How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice! Practice makes perfect. You don't come out of the womb with great seduction skills. It is comprised of many learnable skill sets and therefore takes a certain amount of dedication. The more women you are pursuing, the more opportunities you have to make connections between situations and occasionally have a revelation or two. Back when I was a wee babe I played the piano and made sure I had an hour daily to drill the scales. Now I set aside an hour or two a day to text and make phone calls to my prospects. And in the evenings I'm out with many of them 'practicing' in person. The point is, the more women you are actively pursuing, the more practice you are getting and the faster you will develop.

Building on practice is this key idea: Having multiple girls in your sights encourages you to experiment and take risks with them. I cannot overemphasize how essential this idea is. Knowing that we have 'backups' in place can fuel us to take risks that we would normally hesitate on. We can use this newfound freedom to try out new techniques. We can use it to actually go with our impulses instead of blocking them.

All of the most important discoveries and breakthroughs I've made have been a direct result of this concept. You can read about pickup and think about pickup as much as you want but if you're not actually out there taking chances with it you are not going to improve at all. And if all you're thinking about is 'your main squeeze' it's going to be impossible to apply this vital perspective.

And perhaps the most important reason for having multiple prospects is this: your behavior and your energy will change for the better without even thinking about it. If you really think about it, we are strategically placing ourselves in the same mindset that beautiful women are in. These kinds of ladies have enough guys after them that they can't even stay organized and flake by default much of the time. This is one of the reasons I purposely schedule many of my 'dates' with different women for the same evening. (A technique I discuss more in 'No Flakes') Now the situation is flipped and I am having to cancel
with them. Your aura itself is different; it is free (or freer) of any hint of desperation or neediness. The more prospects you have on your plate, the less anxiety you will experience over any one of them. And as women are typically more intuitive than men, they will most certainly pick up on this.

In other words the more women I am gaming, the better my success rate is with them. So to the man who says, "No, I just want to find the one girl for me!" I say in response: You'll have a much better chance of finding her if you're exploring multiple options, and she will probably be much more receptive to you because of the positive changes in your behavior as a result of having those options.

Have fun,

Julian Foxx

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Flirting with Your 'Bedroom Eyes'

2009-01-26T08:46:00.000-08:00

Pick-up Artists need different ways on how to express sexual interest directly. But should also need to have an 'escape hatch' if girls calls us out on it. That was an advice from the Pickup Artist himself, Julian Foxx. Ever since I came across to his site, julianfoxx.com, I suddenly admired his style in attracting women. One of his dating tips for men is to use the common technique that he called, 'Bedroom Eyes:'

An abundance of masculine energy and sexual intensity can carry out a lot of things; it lets her know that you are A MAN and not apprehensive in showing that. In fact, it is one of the most effective actions to aloow rapid jumps towards intimacy.

So as PUA's we need various styles and tricks to express overt sexual interest but also have an 'escape hatch' if she calls us out on it.

Let's talk about a very widely used technique we utilize to convey sexual interest...'Bedroom Eyes:'

One obvious benefit about sustained 'bedroom eye' contact is it's certainly not gonna land you in the friendzone.

And I'm a strong advocate that you should go practice in front of a mirror or a good buddy. (Just try not to start kino-ing them;)

For me, 'Bedroom Eyes' feels something like this:

- My head is often cocked slightly to the side or back as if I'm examining her

- My head can be still but can also have slow sustained movement

- The lids of my eyes are easy and relaxed, not wide eyed

- I'm not afraid to hold her gaze just slightly longer than what is 'socially acceptable'

- I drink in her eyes and relish the moments when she breaks the eye contact first

- My subtext is: "You have me intrigued...if I like you enough, I will give you the best sex you've ever had...maybe..."

Now...

Even after you get really good at doing this you will almost always get called out on it by her, particularly if you are with her for an extended period of time.

Here is a brilliant counter I developed to deal with her when she does:

*What's below should all be playful, and you should really get her to do it*

Her: "You keep looking at me with this sexy stare."
You: "What are you talking about?"
Her: "Yeah, you keep looking at me...I don't know..."
You: "Ok, since I have no idea what you're talking about, can you show me what I am supposedly doing?"
Her: "I'm not sure if I can imitate it."
You: "Come onnnn, show me;) Let's see this look you SAY I'm giving you."

*she imitates*

You: "Oh my God. That might be the sexiest thing I've ever seen. Is that I how I look to you when I'm doing it? Wow. You should keep on doing that!"

She will laugh, but the laugh is not the real payoff. You have now started a game with her that you will continue throughout the interaction, periodically getting her to show you the 'look' again...

The trick is now you've got HER giving YOU bedroom eye contact too which accomplishes 3 things:

1. You've got yourselves a fun little game you can always go back to.

2. This kind of play amplifies the sexual chemistry.

3. Her imitating the face actually reinforces in her mind that she really is interested in you.

Enjoy,

Julian

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Julian Foxx is considered by many to be the fastest Rising Star in the pickup artist and dating community. His jaw dropping effectiveness with women is matched only by his ability to innovate powerful new techniques, giving their user a ridiculously unfair advantage. Check out http://www.julianfoxx.com and read Julian's controversial ideas on the Mystery VH1 show 'The Pickup Artist' at http://www.julianfoxx.com/mystery-vh1

Looks easy, huh. But let's not risk it. We might blow the whole flirting plan, practice still makes it perfect. I think I'd prefer practicing it in front of the mirror, though.

Menstruation and Sexuality

2009-01-22T11:56:00.000-08:00

For a fact, women's menstruation may ruin your date. But did you know that women's menstruation has something to do with their preferences with men? Here's an interesting article that explains it best:

I've always been fairly attached to my face but one certainly wouldn't describe it as overly 'masculine'. My lips are puffy and red, I don't have the square jaw line that John Cena or a typical linebacker has, my cheekbones are higher and my skin is soft and properly moisturized;) Basically I possess (along with many men) some facial characteristics that could be perceived as more 'feminine'. The significance is this: Scientific research shows that women are more attracted to the 'alpha' (that is, very masculine) facial features on a man when they are ovulating and thus more likely to conceive. Conversely, they are more attracted to the 'feminine' facial features on a man when they are menstruating and thus less likely to become pregnant. When I first discovered this I was a bit disappointed but eventually it dawned on me that I still had just as wide a window of opportunity as my more masculine faced friends did because ovulation and menstruation last for about the same amount of time. In fact, I realized I had one major advantage: although I will spend a lot more money on new bedding than Lou Ferrigno ever did, I am a lot less likely to have an unwanted pregnancy.

As intriguing as this all sounds, it is how we put this knowledge into action that makes the difference. Here are the two things you must do to harness and wield this knowledge:

1. Know thyself.

Our inherited bone structure primarily influences the shapes of our faces. Most men have one of seven facial shapes (oblong, round, triangular, square, pear-shaped, rectangular, diamond or a combination of shapes). Go check yourself in front of the mirror and be attentive to the details. Is your jawline wide and square or slimmer and perhaps more heart shaped? Are your lips narrow or pouty? Look at the line of your brow, does it hang over your eyes or is it flatter making your eyes more visible? Be honest with yourself. Decide where you fall on the continuum of facial features. It's not important where you fall. It only matters that YOU know where you fall.

2. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again in two weeks.

If you blow a chance to get laid, or fail to even get her to show up for a meeting, all is not lost. If you have stronger facial features it is very possible that your timing was a little off and she had just begun her period. (Hence she was probably with me.) Clearly the opposite scenario is just as likely to happen. The real key here is developing solid 'follow up' game. If you have the text/phone skills to keep her on the hook for the next couple of weeks you may just find success as she enters the next stage of her cycle. Let's be clear: you don't HAVE to wait two weeks after a failure to try again. You don't HAVE to exclusively target girls on their period if you look like Elijah Wood. These tools are meant to boost your awareness, tighten your calibration, and add rocket fuel to your determination. I have always been a firm believer of persistence, and now we have one more biological justification not to give up.

Have fun,

Julian Foxx

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Julian Foxx is considered by many to be the fastest Rising Star in the pickup artist and dating community. His jaw dropping effectiveness with women is matched only by his ability to innovate powerful new techniques, giving their user a ridiculously unfair advantage. Check out http://www.julianfoxx.com and read Julian's controversial ideas on the Mystery VH1 show 'The Pickup Artist' at http://www.julianfoxx.com/mystery-vh1

This is the first time that I knew of this fact and just as what the author indicated, this should not discourage us. It's just a simple addition to our knowledge.